DD's friend talked to her about SEX, what should I do?

[littlelz]

One of DD's friend (Y3, 7yo) told DD that she saw someboday was having S-E-X in a car the other day. DD didn't response as she didn't know what SEX means. She asked me what SEX is tonight and I was totally shocked. I can't imagine that a 7yo child talk about sex in the school (or virtually anywhere else). Do I need to talk to the teacher about it? what will the school do to prevent such kind of talking between students?

That's what I was wondering. SEX....

I'm just trying to remind myself what century I'm living in!!!!!!

Good grief, are we still bashful about talking to kids about sex? Do we really not think it is a frequently discussed topic at school? Do we really expect the teachers to be intervening in perfectly normal childish conversations?

OP, if you are incapable of having a sensible, factual conversation with your DD, then at least get an age appropriate book & go through it with her. Please don't tell her that babies come from special cuddles either!!!!!!!!!!!! [despairs emoticon]

I can't take any adult seriously when they insist on capitalising SEX. Or worse writing 'S-E-X'.

Are you 7, OP?

Can I ask what age group is "Mummy Laid and Egg" suitable for? I have a 5 and a 3 year old. The 5 year old had asked some questions that I've answered honestly but would like some back up :)

I'm not really a fan of "Mummy laid an egg". As I've never told my children (7 &4) any stories about storks and cabbage patches, they just think the first bit is silly and don't get that it's a reference to the taboo nature of the subject and then they think the "reveal" bit is also wrong because it shows mummy and daddy having sex on a scooter/hanging from balloons etc and they are pretty sure that's wrong!

It's quite graphic without being helpful or factual. I'm sure there are better ones out there.

My DD does know what sex means although she keeps forgetting and asks me every time she hears the word - I suppose because it all sounds quite surreal! Definitely agree with talking about it as it comes up in a factual way so they are not presented with the information by someone else in an unhelpful way.

I've never understood why a child should be considered too young to have the basics of reproduction explained to them. That's not the same thing as advocating sex in cars, or spelling S-E-X for them, as though they have a problem with phonics.

I always imagine a Les Dawson face mouthing S-E-X.......

My 7 year old asked me what child sexual abuse is after listening to a news report on the radio. Ignorance does not help DC learn to keep themselves safe.

Just explain. I led a very sheltered life but we certainly talked about sex in the playground and it is why I would always discuss it rather than leave them to whatever is going around at the time!
I love the way that parents think they have such control and that a word with the teacher can stop it! It just makes them be more aware that they are not overheard!

'Where willy went' is a good sex education book. We got it out of the library but my DDs (4&5) are spectacularly uninterested in sex so even after we read the book they had no questions. It embarassed MIL though! They also showed no interest in asking how the baby got in when I was pregnant with DS, they were fascinated by pictures of a baby growing and they know they have three holes: a pee hole, a baby hole and a poo hole and they've seen a video of a woman giving birth (that Spanish bed advert). It's funny how they are working their way round the bit we consider crucial.

"they know they have three holes: a pee hole, a baby hole and a poo hole"

That came up this evening with my two DS, 9 and 7. We were doing that science experiment where you put an egg in vinegar and it dissolves the shell to leave just the squishy membrane behind. Of course it eventually went splat, and I ended up telling them about when my waters broke and I knew they were about to be born. They wanted to know how it was different to wee, so the three holes topic came up. Of course DS2 wanted to see with his own eyes. I tried a sketch, and did find a picture in a "growing-up" book, but it was too gynecological to mean anything to him ... at that point I decided we'd reached a limit and moved on!