Need reassurance about DD's social skills

[ViviDeBeauvoir]

DD is 4, eldest of three DC and started in reception this year. Just had her parents' evening and it went mostly as I expected. She's independent, enthusiastic, loves learning, is learning quickly and happy to work in groups or independently. Chatty, but not overbearing/in your face, has adjusted to school well.
All great and I'm really proud.
The thing I'm worried about is that her teacher has said she doesn't look to socialise with the other children at break time etc. she never instigates playing with them. There's no problem with her imagination etc. she just doesn't seem interested in playing.

She's usually very sociable when we're out and about, chatting to people and always seems interested in making friends when I'm there but school have said she isn't, although she doesn't seem bothered by it. She's happy.
They've said they'll keep an eye on it, which has me a little bit worried.
I've agreed to try and foster friendships with the children she likes by having them over for tea etc.

Has anyone else had a child like this? What did you do? Are they happy?

Bump

I don't have a child like this but do know someone with a child like this. If she is happy at school I wouldn't worry too much, it is very early days and it may take her a little while to find her way.

If the school are keeping an eye on her for you I think that's very reassuring - presumably they will tell you if any problems arise. Just keep talking about it with her teacher.

And yes, start having a few children she likes round for tea now and again to help build her confidence.

If she is happy though try not to worry, talk about school in a positive way at home and it will all fall into place I am sure.

my ds is a bit like this.
he has immature social skills so tends to get on well with older kids on a one to one. i think he finds groups overwhelming - merging into a group of peers is a very sophistocated skill and plenty adults struggle. if your dd is happy and communicates ok with children on an individual basis then i wouldn't be worried. if unhappy and uninterested then maybe get hold of some cheri j meiner social skills books. hopefully the teacher gave you suggestions for playdates? sometimes these can be tough if your dc is unsocial so best to stick to structured activities like baking, craft or board games to help initiate interaction. good luck

You said she's happy making friends when you are there, is that with children her age? My DD is reception and having similar problems but has lots of friends outside school and it wasn't til her teacher mentioned it that I realised all DDs friends from out of school are older than her and tend to mummy her a bit so she doesn't really know how to mix with children her own age, I was just wondering is your DD having the opposite problem in that she's used to playing with younger children?

We've been organising play dates since just before half term and she does seem to be getting more confident, but like tricot said, structured activities are a good idea, left to think up their own games DD looks lost and the other child gets bored.