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Would you mention this to the teacher

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Jinty64 · 14/11/2013 07:43

Or does it sound like telling tales. Ds3 (7) has an older brother with ADHD, diagnosed at 7. I am certain ds3 also has it although his problems are not nearly as marked as his brothers. It is mostly his concentration that is affected. I have spoken to ds1's paediatrician and she agrees that it is likely he has it but feels that diagnosis is not important as the school should be putting measures in place to support his needs regardless.

His teachers, so far, don't think he has ADHD but these same teachers didn't think ds1 had it either. Ds3 is clever, in the top group for everything, but is definitely loosing ground as far as writing is concerned and I worry that other subjects will start to suffer as I have been there before.

He now tells me that other children in the class have started saying "you haven't written enough" or "hurry up or we won't get playtime" and it is upsetting him. When ds1 was this age the teacher actually got the other children to have a go at him as she "thought it might help".

I have an appointment with his teacher next week and I can't help but think she will feel I am making a fuss about nothing as thats the feeling she gives me every time i speak to her - and thats not often - but I feel his self esteem is being affected.

What would you do?

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Gileswithachainsaw · 14/11/2013 07:47

You should definitely say something. ADHD or not the poor kid should not be made to feel responsible for whether kids get play time or not. Constant hounding won't help, he needs teachers help not kids hurrying him up.

Gileswithachainsaw · 14/11/2013 07:48

I would also ask what support or plans she has in mind to encourage him to write.

that's if she has one

Jinty64 · 14/11/2013 08:34

He says he does some of his writhing, in a group, with the support for learning teacher. I don't think it is often though!

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Gileswithachainsaw · 14/11/2013 08:41

Perhaps ask how they suggest you support him at home?

It's a very lazy attitude to have the kids on at him rather than addressing the issues as to why he's not doing so much writing.

And I'd hope that he doesn't miss break as at that age they need it and it will make him worse if he doesn't get out the fidgets and energy surely. I'd have something to say about the threat of missing break for sure. Far to young for that.

Periwinkle007 · 14/11/2013 10:32

yes I think you should mention it - it is upsetting him and being picked on is wrong and will make it worse.

Jinty64 · 14/11/2013 12:44

I did ask about having homework over the weekend as, at present, it is given out on Monday and handed in on a Thursday and as I worked full time it was too late to spend the time doing it properly once we got home and had dinner. This wasn't possible so I have cut my hours at work so that I can collect him from school myself and we can do his homework before he is too tired.

Strangely he does lots of writing at home. He plays shops and writes tickets for all his "goods". He makes signs for his bedroom door, his brothers bedroom doors, issues parking tickets and "room violations" for too much mess, writes shopping lists (mostly consisting of chocolate, sweets and the latest toys) and even enjoys writing little letters to friends. Ask him to sit and write out his spelling words three times, write sentences or worse a story and it is accompanied by moans, groans, interruptions and figeting.

I do want to sort this out though as at the moment he loves school and I would hate that to change and i often feel i could have done better for ds1 but I don't want to be marked out as "one of those parents".

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Gileswithachainsaw · 14/11/2013 13:00

Sounds like he's just not inspired at school.

lljkk · 14/11/2013 15:06

I wouldn't mention ADHD to the teacher; just ask if he can be less pressured by her about writing & proceed at own pace because the pressure backfires on him.

No extra support here for children unless they are below avg academically (which yours is far from).

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