DS refusing to make friends

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I moved DS to a new school this year, to start in year 5, as he was getting increasingly unhappy at his old one. DS is quite shy but friendly and easy to get along with. He's also a bit quirky and likes his own company. He had finally made some friends at his old school and I was reluctant to move him because of this.

He has settled well into the school, loves the lessons and the extra curricular activities but he has no friends. He played with some children in the beginning but is now refusing to play with them, saying he prefers to be on his own

I keep trying to tell him that he would enjoy it more if he had a couple of friends but he's refusing. What can I do to help him? He may be happy on his own but everyone needs a friend or two. Should I talk to his teacher or give it a bit longer?

Thanks

Maybe there geniunely is no one he gells with at school - would a couple of play dates help? (or do those die out by year5..)

If there isn't anyone he gets on with well enough to spend more time with at school what about clubs outside of school - ds1 hasn't any good friends at school but enjoys the mix of children at beavers, I think its because they are all enjoying the same tasks/interests, it just gives him a different peer group

Maybe talk to the teacher and see if he is mixing well, ds plays with everyone and no one - I have to remind myself that he's very happy (dh is similar)

Is it possible he's struggling and doesn't really know how to make friends with the other children, but is trying to keep fave by saying he doesn't want to?

Sorry confused, was he unhappy atv his original school too? If so, he may be just going through a hard time at that moment emotionally and with his confidence. Maybe see if there is anyway outside of school you can boost his confidence. My dd goes for a one hour group dance class thing, it really brightens her up and only costs a £ for the hour. as the previous poster said, there may just be nobody at this school he gets on with.

DD1 didn't have friends at primary until the last couple of years when her friend could well have been your DS. Even at secondary she only rubs along with her class mates. They have mostly given up actually bullying her because she refuses to take any notice.

Her friends are family friends DDs and girls she knows from Guides. Girls she actually has something in common with. Like the lad at primary, they are into Dr Who not X factor, Sherlock Holmes not makeup.

Not all children are destined to fit in at school and it's up to us to ensure they have things to do that don't need friends. If friends happen great, but there are no guarantee.

It's shear luck DD gets on so well with one of my DFs DDs she doesn't get on with my other DFs DD at all.

DD 7 has just moved school and the same is happening. There are only 4 girls in her class and she's shy with them. If the other 3 are at a club, she's alone in the playground. She says shed rather wander round alone than be forced to play with others.
I think its a mixture of self sufficiency and shyness.she does get lonely, but also wants to be alone. Its hard for me to see but she maybe finds it easier to cope with than I imagine.

He was unhappy at his last school due to disruptive kids and being bored in lessons. He was happy socially with his few friends.

The main problem is that a lot of the boys play football at break and he doesn't like football. He is happy enough wondering around on his own

He has quite a long day so no time really for friends to come over or to go to Scouts etc. He did have one of his old friends round at half term.

I just don't want him to become isolated and a loner as that could cause problems in the future. He doesn't understand what's wrong with that though.

He's just told me that 2 boys have been picking on him all week. This was my worry, as he's an easy target with no friends :(