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10 year old bitten in a school fight, wwyd?

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Smaragdesthes · 07/11/2013 21:47

My son got into a fight at school today, happens weekly, not a big deal, it's an inner city school and crowd control happens more than teaching as far as I can see.
The other boy bit him on the arm, underneath near the armpit, about at the level where a t-shirt sleeve ends. You can see tooth marks but it didn't break the skin. The deputy head took it seriously, has taken photos and says he will get to the bottom of it tomorrow.
I'm not sure if there is anything I can do to make this better. My son didn't even mention it, I just noticed the bite on him! Is that because he is just so used to being hurt by the other kids? (Last time we had to go to casualty because they were worried that his cheekbone was chipped by a punch).
What would you do?

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lunar1 · 07/11/2013 21:51

Change school!

ladyrainy · 07/11/2013 21:52

'happens weekly, not a big deal'

change school

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Smaragdesthes · 07/11/2013 21:53

he is in his last year, if I change now it's likely to be out of the frying pan into the fire, he's statemented, not good with change....

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Sirzy · 07/11/2013 21:54

I would want to find out why he was getting into a fight weekly before anything else!

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Smaragdesthes · 07/11/2013 21:56

It's looking like he has aspergers, he has difficulties reading people and knowing when to stop so other kids get fed up with him. Also, he's an ethnic minority and gets bullied because of that. I know changing schools looks like a good idea but I can't imagine it would do anything but make it worse.

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Hassled · 07/11/2013 21:57

Weekly fights really are a big deal, by anyone's standards - inner city or not.

Fair enough that you don't want to move school at this stage - but talk to the Head about levels of supervision in the playground.

Sirzy · 07/11/2013 21:58

TBH I can't see how it can get much worse than him being in weekly fights, at least 2 of which have ended with him being properly injured.

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Smaragdesthes · 07/11/2013 21:58

This was in a PE lesson. Generally it's in the playground though.

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ladyrainy · 07/11/2013 22:00

OP - Imagine if you had to go somewhere every day where you were badly bitten, you were hit so hard that your cheekbone was injured and you were bullied because of your ethnicity...would you be happy with that?

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Smaragdesthes · 07/11/2013 22:03

nope, but none of the schools round here are much better. I can't home ed him, I'd kill him. Not long now til secondary school and it will be a whole lot easier for him, more mixed.

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GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 08/11/2013 18:21

That's horrible - it's good that the deputy head is taking it seriously and he really should. Biting is very anti-social (and dangerous) even by the standards of kids who start fights. I feel heart-broken thinking of your DS being treated so horribly because he's different. I really hope you can work with the school to make his last year tolerable

Retroformica · 08/11/2013 21:42

I think I would keep my son off school until the school could promise that they could fulfil their duty if care and ensure my child was safe.

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Smaragdesthes · 10/11/2013 19:34

They excluded the other child, I don't know how long for but I suppose that is the best they can do. I said I was concerned that a fight could get to that stage and that I was worried that the level of supervision isn't good enough and they said they would talk to the teacher.
I'm now peed off that another kid went home with his uniform in his (clearly marked) gym bag and he now has no school shoes because the other kid didn't bring it back.

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lostinteaching47 · 11/11/2013 19:36

What Retroformica said! This is appalling, really bad.My daughter was badly bullied in yrs 3, 5 and 6 at juniors, mostly by boys.In Yr 5 she was sexually harrassed and I went ape sh*t totally ballistic.I'm a teacher but 1st and foremost I was her mum and I wasn't leaving until I was satisfied.I can truthfully say I have never been so angry.Your son needs more help.

intitgrand · 12/11/2013 16:40

' My son didn't even mention it, I just noticed the bite on him! Is that because he is just so used to being hurt by the other kids? '

I woul;d say that he didn'y mention it because he wasn't innocent himself!!

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Smaragdesthes · 12/11/2013 16:59

the other kid is now saying that he bit my son because he 'wanted to taste milky bar'. I'm not saying my son is entirely innocent but at least he is not a racist biter.

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Smaragdesthes · 12/11/2013 17:01

I'm getting support from SARI who are Support for Racist Incidents, they've been great and it's really refreshing to hear someone agree that it's racism. The school have denied it up to recently. I've a meeting with the school tomorrow and I'll pull him out of there until they can sort it out if I have to.

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Trapper · 10/02/2015 22:01

The other kid is saying this to who, and how have you found out? Apologies for asking but the drip feed is making this hard to follow. If your son is fighting every week you should be working with the school to get this resolved or moving your child for his own safety. Racial abuse is inexcusable and must be reported to the police.

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