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should I bring this up at parents evening?

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youbethemummylion · 15/10/2013 15:02

Yesterday at pick up I noticed DS1 6 in year 2 was sitting in a different place. I asked DS why he had been moved thinking he may have been misbehaving.

DS said he was moved because boy1 and boy2 were talking so he had to split them up.

This happened in year 1 as well DS being moved to split others up. I feel a bit annoyed that he is being used like this as I feel it could affect his education or relationship with his peers. Do you think I have a point or do you think its more something or nothing?

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harryhausen · 15/10/2013 15:09

Something of nothing really.

You know it amazes me that do many parents know where their children sit. My dc's seem to sit with different children all the time. If they are on a certain 'table' then I'm totally unaware of it.

My ds is in yr2. He was split up from his best friend and was not allowed to do any activity or group work with him as they were so giggling and hyper together. The class as a whole constantly mix.

It shouldn't effect your Ds who he plays with at break or sits with at lunch? It'll probably shift around again soon. You should be proud that maybe your ds is seen as a calm influence?

moldingsunbeams · 15/10/2013 15:10

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Kewcumber · 15/10/2013 15:16

If they're going to split people up then someone apart from the guilty parties has to move as well DO you really think moving to another table a few feet away is going to impact his learning? Our teacher moves the tables every half term anyway.

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youbethemummylion · 15/10/2013 15:36

The only reason I know where he sits is you have to walk right past the window and they are big windows you cant help but look!

I didnt really know if this should be something to worry about or not which is why I asked but it seems from the responses it isnt so mission accomplished.

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Kewcumber · 15/10/2013 15:41

I would bring it up if it is obviously distressing him, otherwise not.

Scarynuff · 15/10/2013 19:13

What difference does it make to your ds where he sits?

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youbethemummylion · 15/10/2013 20:00

Scarynuff the difference is he is now sitting next to a disruptive pupil in order to try and keep the disruptive pupils behaviour in check and this is not the first time it has happened. I dont believe it is my 6 year olds responsibility to regulate other pupils behaviour.

It doesnt matter anyway as I have already stated I shall not be raising it as in issue.

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blueberryupsidedown · 15/10/2013 20:11

Get a grip. really. There are disruptive children in all classrooms, and they sit all over the place, and they are regularly moving about anyway. Your DS will have to deal with children with difficult behaviour, that's just a reality.

Ilelo · 15/10/2013 20:41

I would mention it if my dc said the child's behaviour impacted their being able to do their work. My child's learning should not have to suffer in order to manage someone else's behaviour.

That said, like someone mentioned before and similar to my dc's school they are always sitting at different tables during the course of the day. However, they have a "permanent station" they initially sit at in the mornings and return to just before the end of school .

PrincessScrumpy · 15/10/2013 21:16

I actually see your point. My concern would be dc being forced to sit next to the disruptive pupil. I was very well behaved at school so I was the one who had to sit with the "naughty boy" ... He kicked me all the way through my 11 + exam. I would chat to ds about it and play it down but find out how regular it is.

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youbethemummylion · 15/10/2013 22:08

Ok I give up trying to defend myself as I said I was trying to gather others views on this as I wasnt sure wether this was an issue or a complete non event.

I get the picture that the majority view it as just one of those things and have said I will not be speaking to the teacher about it.

I do not need to get a grip, fair enough if I had gone straight to the teacher all guns blazing but what I actually attempted to do was gather some views from fellow parents about a situation I was unsure

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Scarynuff · 15/10/2013 22:15

DS said he was moved because boy1 and boy2 were talking so he had to split them up

This is pretty standard behaviour management for 6 year olds. Any teacher would do this to separate two chatterers. It doesn't sound as if the boys were 'disruptive' - more like not paying attention.

Staff move children around all the time. If the boys are stopping your child from learning, the teacher will notice and try something else.

HesMyLobster · 15/10/2013 22:34

Hi,
I do understand you being concerned. My DD went all the way through Primary in a particularly disruptive/challenging cohort and was often used as "a calming influence" - ie being plonked next to the most disruptive children.
I work in a primary school. It is fine, and I do get that it works, and long term is beneficial to the whole class as it means they can actually get some learning done.

However I did have to raise it with her teachers a couple of times when she felt they were not being rotated or "taking turns" and she was stuck with the most aggressive/disruptive child for a whole term

(she came home for weeks with bruises all over her shins and ankles from being constantly kicked under the table - and she's the kind of girl who will just take it rather than make a fuss/ draw attention - which is most likely the reason she was kept next to him)

So no, I don't think it should be a problem as long as it isn't forever, and in my experience teachers are starting to mix around the children more and more.

Thankfully DD11 is now at secondary, and although most of her cohort have gone to the same one, they have been 'diluted' with others!

wheresthebeach · 16/10/2013 11:50

I'd keep an eye on it. My DD was put next to the most disruptive boy in the class for nearly 2 years. I wish I'd said something to get her moved (others had...). Turns out he's spent a good deal of time telling my DD how slow, rubbish etc she was. She kept saying he was 'irritating' and stupidly I just assumed it was normal disruptive stuff.

tara49 · 16/10/2013 12:12

I think if it's bothering you then bring it up with the teacher - why not.

pixiepotter · 16/10/2013 17:16

It is apparently good teaching practice to regularly change seating plans.Maybe the teacher is just,you know, being a good teacher

teacherwith2kids · 16/10/2013 18:43

I can see both sides of this. As a teacher, my pupils change who they sit with constantly - for different tasks, for different levels of support, to work with particular partners ... accoaionally because certain combinations don't work well together.

OTOH, DS was used as a 'human shield' in Year 1, to an extent I only really realised when I noticed that he was black and blue down one side and completely bruise-free on the other 'Oh, X pinches me all the time' [perhaps not surprising that DS became a school induced selective mute through extreme anxiety during that year.....]

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