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Support thread for parents burying their heads in sandpits with PFBs off to school

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MrsWembley · 15/08/2013 09:51

Am I the only one, stood here looking at my DD and thinking,

'nooooooooo, you can't be ready, you can't be about to leave me forever, they can't have you, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...'

I'm fine with it, really. It's just, well, there's only three and a half weeks to go.Sad

How have others dealt with it? How will you deal with it? How will I react to it? Glad of the peace? Sad at the thought that someone else is now teaching her? Missing her company? Grateful for the time alone with DS?

And how do people deal with school politics? And then there's all those frightful stories I've read on here about dealing with other parents!

If you've been there, please come and help us. If you too are sitting around, pretending it's not about to happen, come here to carry on the pretence.Wink

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Refoca · 17/08/2013 11:29

Can I join you? Meant to be shoe shopping today, and still need to do labels, but we're still sat in our jimmys with heads firmly planted in the sand procrastinating and readig this post instead! Haha.

Hope I get my backside in gear this afternoon, I'm sure once we have everything ready I'll feel happier.

It helps that the school is small and friendly, and settling in only lasts 2 weeks...can't believe some of the long periods of half days mentioned above! I work, it would be impossible!

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MrsWembley · 17/08/2013 17:09

Just suffered the hell that is Clark's on one of the last Saturdays before school starts and found a pair within 15 minutes of being in there!!!

The ticket thing helped, as did the chap at the entrance who told us how long we would be waiting, so we quickly rushed off to see a Gromit and have a wee.Grin

It also helped that I had suggested DP come with us (first time and everything); he hates Cribbs Causeway at the best of times and especially on a weekend. So, as he doesn't have the angst that I tend to veer toward in situations like this, three pairs were brought out in her size, one pair was replaced for a half size up, that pair was chosen by DD and DP agreed! Done!Grin

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BikeRunSki · 17/08/2013 17:23

My PFB starts Reception in a couple of weeks. He' ll be 5 the week he starts so it has been a really long time coming. We are both very much looking forward to it. . A week of half days, then a week.of morning + dinner. Settling so far has been brilliant. He' s done 5 x afternoons at school; parents could go.the first time and we had a kind of assembly with the head mistress and the children went to the Reception classroom. Then the Receotion teacher came for a home visit, then went to DS' s nursery. I really couldn' t be happier. Did get a bit teary when I was putting name tags on DS' s school uniform when I realised that in 3 years time I' ll be labelling pinafores and cardigans rather than trousers and jumpers....

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MrsGeologist · 17/08/2013 17:29

Kind if cheaty being here as DS went to the preschool attached to his school, but he was only on half days. He's not yet four and I'm worried about how he will cope with the full day. We are quite used to a relaxing, leisurely start in the morning, so the full day will be hard.

When I told him he'd be in school in the morning and the afternoon he cried and said, 'but I'll miss you mummy.'

I could have wept.

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herbaceous · 17/08/2013 18:31

BikeRunSki Bloody hell. Your marvellous school has stiffened my resolve that writing to the head was the right thing to do. I very nearly HATE his new school, which isn't a good start.

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MrsWembley · 17/08/2013 18:41

Not a good start, no.Sad

Some settling-in stuff on here sounds marvellous. It does make you wonder about the schools that do bugger all.Hmm

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BikeRunSki · 17/08/2013 21:40

Well I am a first time school parent, so I have nothing to compare DS's school too. We are fairly rural, and it's just the ordinary village school, but compared to what I have heard from others, it sounds marvellous. At the new parents meeting, they had samples of the logo'ed school uniform out i different sizes and order forms for it.

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teabagpleb · 18/08/2013 08:12

Ds missed the settling-in session as we were way, but did look round with us a few weeks earlier. Just found out that he starts on the same day as two friends and is in same class as best friend, which is reassuring. His school does full days from the start, but the kids are phased in a few a day over 2 weeks.

Ordered uniform - just need PE sweatpants and the black shoes now. Socks aren't mentioned - I'd guess grey socks to go with the trousers would be best?

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sparrowfart23 · 18/08/2013 14:13

teabagpleb - I'd go for grey if they don't specify, as they will look cleaner than white after a while!

herbaceous - I really feel for you! You are doing really well being positive for your DS, and I hope the school shapes up sharpish.

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GeekLove · 18/08/2013 14:20

Signs in!
I hav done naff all but do at least possess a Sharpie. Will need to ring up school to pick up the rest of the uniform. As for shoes - Sainsbos will have to do as we have no free weekends.
Also due to a clash I will actually be at a conference for his first week! Am a bit gutted actually.

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Adikia · 18/08/2013 15:35

Awww, DD has tried the full winter uniform on today, she looks so smart and beautiful in it but far too grown up.

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MissMarplesBloomers · 18/08/2013 15:44

'nooooooooo, you can't be ready, you can't be about to leave me forever, they can't have you, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO"

OP My PFB is off to Uni soon, I feel exactly the same!!!

I remember her first day at school so well, she went in OK, if a little pale, and loved it. Her sister though (just 2 years younger) howled all the way home " I waaaaaant myyyyyy sisssttteeeeerrrr" which upset me more!!

I think the thing that I found hardest was not knowing what she was doing most of the day & who with as her little nursery was so marvellous. I soon got to know the routine though and the staff and then grieved for them when she went to Big School.

Good luck to all you with littlies starting it's an exciting if a little sad phase, in its own way, and soon passes so enjoy seeing them grow up with these new experiences!

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TheHappyCamper · 18/08/2013 17:24

I got DD's shoes from ASDA actually! They were £10 and look fab - exactly what I'd have gone for in Clarks for 4 x the price. I'll report back how long they last. DD is not 'hard' on her shoes generally going by past experience.

I think we should all share a pic of our beautiful children in their new uniform. It might make us feel like we're all in the same boat maybe?

Herbaceous - I read some of your other thread about your ds's school and it sounds terrible. Is there no way at all that you can get him in anywhere else? I'm guessing you're probably in London, but are you on waiting lists etc for other schools? Could you HE until a place elsewhere comes up?

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Galena · 18/08/2013 18:00

I'll get DD dressed in her uniform tomorrow and take a pic... but trousers, pinafore or skirt? Wink

Am going to iron the labels in tonight...

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Adikia · 18/08/2013 18:46

Smile I like that idea HappyCamper, can someone tell me how to share picture on here though please?

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MrsWembley · 18/08/2013 21:23

Picture sharing sounds fab.

Just have to buy the uniform now...

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MrsWembley · 18/08/2013 21:24

And, urm, also waiting for someone to come along with the 'how to'...

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Galena · 19/08/2013 06:54

I know how to add photos when on my laptop, but have no clue about on the app. Confused

On the computer you need to have the photo on your computer then go to My mumsnet on the top bar, then My photos. Then you can choose which photo to upload. You have to ensure your profile is set as public though. Any help?

I haven't worked out if it's possible to view the photos from people's profiles on the app though... On my computer I just click on the person's name but that doesn't work on the app.

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Galena · 19/08/2013 08:42

Ok, having looked, on my tablet if I go to the desktop site rather than using the app (so go to www.mumsnet.com in internet browser, then click on 'Go to desktop site') there is a purple button in the top right hand corner which says 'my mumsnet'. Click on that and it brings down a drop down menu which says 'my photos'. Click on that and you should be able to upload a pic.

You may need to make your profile public if it isn't already which is also done from 'my mumsnet' and will be 'my profile' or something similar. ..

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herbaceous · 19/08/2013 08:58

I'm game for some photo action. And yes - we're in London, and are on the waiting lists for two schools. Though I don't want him to get all settled at this one, then have to move in what is possibly a frying pan -> fire scenario.

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Galena · 19/08/2013 09:29

Oh boy... trying to get DD to get herself dressed in the school uniform... it's taking forever! we'll have to get up at 5 if she's to dress herself before school.

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Galena · 19/08/2013 10:08

Argh! I took a photo (she looked very grown up!) and tried to put it on and it wouldn't go upright, either lying left or right so am emailing it to myself and will laptop it later!

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Bumpsadaisie · 19/08/2013 10:50

I am just feeling ludicrously excited about DD starting school. I am sure it is a displacement emotion and I am in totally denial about what it really means!

But honestly, I can't wait for her first day and seeing her troop off in her little uniform!

I realise I may be in a minority here! Grin

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BikeRunSki · 19/08/2013 11:08

I' m with you bump

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Adikia · 19/08/2013 11:53

Galena, my DD takes ages too, I'm trying to decide whether teaching her independence or the extra 2 hours sleep in the morning is more important to me!

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