Acting very young?

[babasheep]

My dc2 a summer baby is now 7 and will be going to yr3 in this Sept. Although dc2 has met reasonable sat levels and reading and spelling age are almost 9yr old. But dc most of the time is still acting like 5 yr old. Is it a issue in junior school? Teachers opinion or someone own experience please.

It won't be an issue with the teacher/staff but could be an issue with friendships, depending on his/her peers.

I wouldn't make a big deal about it but would steadily encourage independence e.g. packing own school bag, helping make packed lunches etc. This helps children feel grown up.

Exactly the same here, dd just 7 and going into yr 3 in September. And behaves like a 4 year old at best, though got average sat scores. I do encourage independence but dd pushes back strongly and wants things done for her. She isn't mixing well at school as she tends to play with just 1 or 2 kids in the class or by herself when the chosen 2 want to play with the others ( this does upset dd but although asked regularly won't join in with the others as they won't play her way). I'm worried the rest of the class will drop her, to my mind they've been quite patient with dd so far. Dd wants to pretend she is a puppy all day long. I thought it was a phase when she was 4 but it's still going on. I've not had any success in widening her friendships. She doesn't want the other kids round our house. One success this year is swimming, she's started enjoying swimming club, and doesn't act like a puppy here either and is actually improving! Any advice on how to widen her friendships, interests and stop being a puppy?

That s interesting my dd also like pretending being a puppy as well! Why! She also like swimming very much. DD does like to play with other children but I do know how well she gets on with them. My main concern is if she will be taken advantage of by older children especially if she doesn't talk more like her own age at least.

My Dd3 has autism (not suggesting yours does), her social skills are approx 2/3 years delayed.

I use a visual timetable at home to encourage independence. Each thing she needs to do is written on a little piece of paper (you can use pictures), laminated and has a small piece of velcro stuck on the back. All the instructions are then stuck onto a piece of felt with an envelope stapled to the bottom along with a photo of her(to give ownership). If she follows all the steps she can get herself ready for school completely independently.

This has been a great way to get her to realise she can do things for herself.

I would also recommend cubs or brownies, they are great for encouraging independence.

I wouldnt worry too much about being babyish at home, sometimes it is fine.

Good luck

When you say acting like a 5yo in what way? And are you sure? I work in upper ks2 and the y3 kids are very much younger than the ones i deal with who are just 2 years older.

Ds is 9 and acts like a 5 year old.

Baby talk, tone of voice, saying he can't go stuff etc. it's annoying and does cause problems. He's being assessed for aspergers. Whining if other children don't want to do the things he wants to.

He's also very small for his age so often people assume he is 5.

Mainly the way she talk and think (may be). She still love to watch In The Night Garden etc and read babyish stories. Although she can be quite independent when she wants to. I don't know if she just doesn't want to grow out of being a baby. Her school report does show that she is rather immature.

Ime they all seem v young til christmas, teachers will expect ks2 behaviour and they will be mixing more with older children - who will soon let them know that in the night garden isn't cool!