Hi Alexsmama:
US system vs. UK system:
Year R (ages 4/5) = US preschool
Year 1 (ages 5/6) = US Kindergarten
Year 2 (ages 6/7) = US 1st Grade
Year 3 (ages 7/8) = US 2nd Grade
Year 4 (ages 8/9) = US 3rd Grade
Year 5 (ages 9/10) = US 4th Grade
Year 6 (ages 10/11) = US 5th Grade
Year R taught under Early Years Foundation Stage (extension of nursery school curriculum) - really learning through play. They focus on things like teaching letter sounds (phonics/phonemes) and counting (up to 100, by 2s, 5s and 10s and sometimes simple additions - usually pictorially. Some are reading by now others aren't. Mine weren't - one struggled & one got it lickity split). Usually lots of opportunities to come into school as a parent.
Year 1/2 are called Key Stage 1
Years 3 - 6 are called Key Stage 2
After primary most pupils go to Senior School (= US Middle School + High School combined). Usually no middle schools - although some counties do have them. Not sure where you're moving but asuming somewhere big - ?London.
Schools system:
Public schools in UK = US private schools (this is very confusing).
Sate schools in UK = US public school system
State schools vary in terms of how they are maintained - but as a parent on the ground it doesn't make a huge amount of difference, although it can affect admissions rules or curriculum (i.e. if an academy - this is a new type of school which is privately run and not directly controlled by city/ county council education authority & they are not required to follow national curriculum).
My impression from a non-London big English city is that they start education expectations earlier here but they don't seem to make the progress we'd expect in the US.
My advice is have a look at the new national curriculum documents which will be in play from September 2014 and so will apply to your DC. info in box on right here: www.education.gov.uk/schools/teachingandlearning/curriculum/nationalcurriculum2014/nationalcurriculum/a00210036/sosletter. A plain English summary of what you should expect a school to be delivering by curriculum area for each year can be found on Campaign for Real Education: www.cre.org.uk/primary_contents.html. This is 'gold standard' stuff - and the likelihood is that your school won't be working to this - but it's good to know what is possible in an ideal world.
In terms of chosing a school, the first issue to get over is that you don't automatically have a right to go to the nearest school. You go where you meet the criteria (faith, distance, etc...) and there are vacancies. Impartial parent-friendly information is non-existent (but from what I hear this is much the same in western US states where family & friends live). My advice is check out state schools on parent view: parentview.ofsted.gov.uk/parent-view-results - this is a standard questionnaire about the school - click through each question and see what proprotion of parents are happy with various things. Stats speak for themselves really - especially around issues of progress or bullying.
Check out SAT results for school not just in past year, but over a run of 5-6 years. Current info here: www.education.gov.uk/schools/performance/ - this give current information by typing in post code of school or name. Now SAT results are collected at end Y2 and end Y6 - Y2 results are not published but data informs progress measures on same pupils in Y6. On the bottom left box you'll see previous years results - go through these as well. Last year's SATs results are not publically available until December of the current school year. My advice is look for schools that show consistently good results - with the proviso that a change of Head teacher (= US principal) or status (so becoming an academy) can make a big difference.
What you're trying to avoid is a school which struggles to get 60% of pupils to NC Level 4. (information on progress through national curriculum levels - they don't have grades - is here: www.mumsnet.com/learning/assessment/progress-through-national-curriculum-levels. If your kid finishes NC Level 4 in Year 6 - this is roughly equivalent to a B-/C 5th grader from what my brother (who teaches 5th grade in US) could work out. (i.e. a kid who knows his times tables but is a bit shaky and would struggle to multiply or divide 3 digits+ x 3 digits. Kid might know area of square but not triangle/ circle. A child who is roughly reading at appropriate age level but may not understand parts of speech or more difficult vocabulary. A child who can write a few paragraphs, but may not use many words beyond 2 syllables). It is not a nosebleedingly high standard - schools will try to persuade you it's the pinacle of achievement but government floor standard now is 65% of pupils NC Level 4 or better.
To be fair many of the issues I've faced with our school are very similar to what friends are facing with schools in California, Nevada, Arizona & Texas - it's just a different context. Primary schools are generally safe, happy places and my impression is that teachers really do want to help get children off to a good start. Like anything - a parent who's keeping track that homework is getting done, ensuring some extra reading is happening and trying to give children educational opportunities as and when they can (watching documentaries, visiting museums, visiting historic properties, travelling, etc...), and encouraging effort at school, tends to have a child who does well. My impression here is that the 'educational establishment' feel children either are bright or they're not (they're born that way) and that extra work, practice, etc... is not believed to resolve this. For me this is a huge cultural conflict as I genuinely believe any child can learn to add, subtract, multiply & divide (with the proviso of no learning difficulties or disabilities)- but you can't fight city hall on this one. You just have to agree to disagree. They also are very slow to identify problems and intervene (for which read that would require spending money which isn't in the business plan) - so a hawk-eyed Mum is a real asset here.
Now at the end of this primary school lark - (really by Year 4) you need to get your 'game head' on and think through your options for secondary school. Some areas (including ours) have a test (the 11+) which is given at the beginning of Year 6. However, that's a while down the road - just make a mental note that you'll have to start research into this around Y4/Y5 - especially if you're in an area where there is this 11+ system.
Admissions is changing and local authorities no longer will be centrally controlling admissions - however it may be an idea to contact the Local Education Authority or visit their website to research your options and get advice on how to proceed. I suspect these changes in admissions control (moving from city/ county council control to individual schools) will mean that really you can't start organising schooling until you know when you are going to arrive & where you'll be living. Once you know that, contact schools in the area - because you'll need to speak to each individual school to see if there are places. Being foreign is a huge help - be polite, apologise like mad, but pump the people you talk to for information.
The only thing I can say is that if you were moving in the US - you'd be facing a lot of these issues as well - so try to keep your sense of humour and keep telling yourself you're not the first person to move and it must be possible.