dd (reception) is struggling to relate to other children

[PrincessScrumpy]

I don't really know what to do with this information. Her report is all 3s and 2s (exceeding and expected) except one 1 for making relationships. It says the above plus dd is mature and good at sharing and compromising. I know she plays in the play ground with children from other classes but I didn't see that as an issue. In the first term I would have understood the comment yet when we asked they said she had lots of friends, now, she is getting invited to parties and having tea at 3 different friend's houses (and they've been here). What on earth should her relationships be like at 5? (She plays really well at Hine with her toddler aged twin sisters)
Many are boasting about great reports and possibly I should be but I just feel sad for dd that she's not as happy as I thought :(

It's always hard to have reports which give unexpected news. It would be much better if you had been given a warning that something was not going as well as the rest of her development (which is lovely, by the way). But it's not necessarily saying she is unhappy nor 'bad' at something, just not quite as well-developed in this area. I would have a brief word with the class teacher to see if there is a particular aspect you could be working on over the summer, such as being sensitive to others' needs or taking other children's ideas into account. Then relax and be proud of an otherwise great report!

Im sure someone better qualified will be along soon.
Maybe she is happy though? Have you clarified what they mean by it?

There are some really strong characters in her class and rather than argue dd walks away. I see this as a strength and probably what I'd do. She's not a sheep and I feel that's being seen as a bad thing.

I suppose it depends what they are looking for in terms of relating to other children. I am not sure what the category really means but it could be she is lacking in confidence, it could be she isn't quite as sympathetic as they would hope if someone hurts themselves (you know how kids often laugh when they are scared or embarrassed, that kind of thing) which isn't anything wrong it is just a maturity thing they haven't quite got yet.

I think you should ask the teacher if you can have a quick word just asking what in particular her problem is in this area and how you can help to address it.

sounds like she has her head screwed on right if she walks away from trouble to me.