Can any teachers reassure a useless mother..?

[DoodleAlley]

DS had his practice session in reception this afternoon.

On collecting him I was a few minutes late as was having an overly complicated crisis with his baby sister.

I had asked a friend to keep an eye on DS that he was ok, which he was.

When I arrived I got told off that I hadn't phoned school and in retrospect I can understand I should have done but I thought I would get to school before a message got through. This was just my inexperience and not thinking clearly in a money of stress.

I now know I made a mistake but I'm now irrationally upset that I've prejudiced DS and that the teacher wont like him because of me being useless.

Can any teachers (or parents with experience) reassure me that the teacher will separate my complete and utter uselessness from DS and not prejudice him as a result?

Totally. And likely the telling off was wee bit over top because it is end of year and everyone stressed and tired. It is annoying when a parent is consistently late but a one off will not mean a thing. Although I would say it is a bit unfortunate that it was his introduction. Put it behind you and forget about it

I don't think any teacher would change the way they think about your DS because you were a few minutes late.

If I were you, I'd have a quick chat with the teacher on the first morning of school and explain that you were having bit of a nightmare and you realise that you should have called the school straight away to let them know you were running a couple of minutes late. That will clear up any lingering doubts that they have about you :-)

Don't worry about it.

Or even

I did apologise profusely although I gave a simplified explanation. I am compeltely mortified as I usually work so hard to be on time and efficient.

Just feel like I've let DS down and he is such a good boy I just want them to like him the way his nursery has always done.

He is fast asleep on the sofa now while I cry into DD. I wish I could say the day had gone better after that but it got worse!

Thanks for the replies I will apologise again in September.

Number one: it probably felt like a telling off because you were feeling guilty and panicky .. she was probably informing you of the protocals.
Number 2: She won't rememner all summer anyway unless you are always late
Number 3: She will jusge your son based on him

Put it out of your mind and don't think about it anymore

ps I won't appolgoise in Sept - you have appologised already and she will not remember.
you are not the first person to be late I am sure

It could be because the school are not allowed to let the child go with another person unless they have been instructed to by the parent/guardian. For sept I wouldn't worry too much and I doubt that the teacher will give it a second thought let alone remember in sept! But if you are ever not there to collect, you can't just ask a friend to grab/watch your child unless you have spoken to someone at the school and given your consent.

No I realise that now. The messages probably got mixed because all I meant was I wanted her to look over at DS and check he wasn't upset because he knows her well and would have been made happier by seeing her.

I know I got it all wrong it was really stupid of me

Calm down dear

As a teacher I sat with a child for 45 minutes this week waiting for him to be picked up from a new entry day. I didn't mind. I tried to reassure the parent that it was ok and make sure the child wasn't stressed about it. It happens all the time and you should not have been told off. Don't worry about it.

It's fine I'm sure it was just them telling me the protocols.

I just wanted to make sure it wouldn't be a black mark against DS.

Thank you for all the resp

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Apologies for accidentally hitting post message

I was about five minutes late I think. I was focusing on getting there do didn't check exactly. Def not ten minutes

Please don't worry. Teacher probably forgotten already!
Don't say sorry again in September as she will probably just look confused and not know what you are talking about.
Relax....

They were just a bit stern but it was probably my interpretation, them being in a rush etc

Don't worry.

And I wouldn't apologise again in September. If you aren't late again, noone will remember unless you remind them!

Don't fret about it, the teacher will have forgotten it all by now. It certainly will not affect the way she deals with your ds! Honestly, you are overthinking it. Teachers do not change the way they behave towards children whatever the parents might do. I have had parents shouting abuse and threatening me and it never affected the way I treated their children. Being late happens to everyone sooner or later.

only five mins? Please forget about it. I guarantee the teacher will have and will struggle to remember which child it was tomorrow. Really. I promise xxx

Thank you everyone, I do think that the stress of the moment probably made everything seem worse.

I shall put it to the back of my mind and resolve to allow much more time in case of similar "perfect storms" of events, though hopefully less likely with DD steadily getting older!

And for all of you teachers thank you for your patience with the likes of me, congratulations on nearly making it to the end of term and have a good summer break. You have my admiration for what you put up with!

Please don't worry. This is very normal and I'm sure the teacher will understand if you had a problem with your little one.