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Yr 2 DS frienship problems?

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spudpudding · 03/07/2013 14:20

My son is in yr 2 and has been playing a lot with another boy in his class, they seem to get on ok but my son gets upset as the other boy does and says things that he does not like. DS either cries and moans to me or just lashes out - he slapped him for laughing and calling him a baby when he had fallen over / been pushed and hurt himself. DS lost his golden time for this. I am not making excuses for his behaviour, but think it may be a bad match? My son tends to focus all of his attention on one child and then gets upset if he is told that he can't play etc.

Trying to encourage other friendships - do you let them find their own friends or help them? not sure if I am interfering too much?? should I just let him get on with it and suffer the consequences?? My mum just told me who to play with - her friends children and this seemed to work OK!! The boys in his year are a real tough bunch and I am finding it hard going. They have been playing tig but just turned it into a way of pushing and winding people up - you missed me etc., so have suggested when tig game starts to go and play with someone else, this seems to be working.

He will be in the juniors from September - will this be worse?? Anyone any experience of boys social groups??

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JennyWren · 03/07/2013 14:46

I would (and have) taken the lead in inviting other children home for playdates, so give DD and those children a chance to develop friendships on a 1:1 basis without the 'difficult relationship friend' being a factor. I have also spoken to the class teacher and explained that DD was feeling a little overwhelmed by a particular friendship and that as parents we were keen to encourage other friendships. We asked if the teacher would try to make a point of pairing DD with a variety of children when it was appropriate, not just letting DD default to the usual friend - the teacher was very happy to do that. She was generally in favour of not letting children become too insular in their friendships and of encouraging multiple friendships to flourish - if you speak to your DS's teacher (s)he may well be happy to intervene - this won't be the first time she's been asked about this. My guess would be that if a teacher has the opportunity to help children into easier friendships and in doing so reduce the potential for behaviour flare-ups, AND has parental support in doing so, they would probably be very happy to go down that route.

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