Should I speak to head/deputy?

[chaosisawayoflife]

Dd (reception) had a nasty face first fall yesterday afternoon. She has a bump on her forehead, bruised cheek and nose, and swollen lip. Not horrendous looking, but definitely obvious if you look at her. I spoke to her teacher this morning to tell her that I was trying to get an emergency dentist appointment for her as I was worried she had damaged her teeth, so I might have to take her out of school early. I also went to the office to let them know.
I didn't explicitly ask them to keep an eye on her due to head injury.
Anyway, I picked her up and she told me she had been crying at lunch time because her head was really hurting. She barely touched her lunch which is very unlike her.
I asked if anyone had looked after her and she said one of the lunchtime teachers sat next to her, and then her friends looked after her in the playground.
Aibu to think that a child who has had a head injury in the previous 24 hours who is crying and complaining of a head ache (very uncharacteristic for her) should be more closely monitored/ I should have been called?
I appreciate that the school cannot hand over details of every child to lunchtime supervisors, but the bump on her head/swollen face is evident.
I'm tempted to have a chat with the deputy/head tomorrow to make them aware and maybe to look into procedures around this. I don't want to make a big fuss but I do think that she slipped through the net a bit in terms of care and attention today.
Wwyd?

Personally...I understand your upset and anxiety about her headache not being picked up on...but at the same time, if it were me and I hadn't said anything about keeping an eye on her because of head injury, and to look out for headaches etc - or specifically asked them to call me if she felt unwell - then I wouldn't necessarily expect more than TLC. Which, if I read your post correctly, she got in the form of caring teacher and friends.

Presumably, they will have assessed her as feeling rough but not bad enough to need to go home, as they didn't call you.

I would have a chat with her class teacher tomorrow to say you were concerned because dd reported a bad headache, and ask whether they noticed/were told of anything by the lunchtime staff?

But I wouldn't do more than that, tbh.

I wouldn't take it further tbh
Just tell her if she feels unwell to tell her teacher in the future

A member of staff sat next to her while she ate, sounds like fairly close monitoring to me.

How do you know the MSA or her teacher didnt put a note in the staffroom or wherever the lunch time staff go to say 'watch out for x, she has had a recent head injury.'?

I what way did she 'slip through the net?' - Was she further injured or ill? Was there anything the staff could have done other than comfort her? Did YOU send some calpol in with her?

I think you are understandably upset that your child has been hurt and are looking for people to be cross with.

I think I may have kept her home today if it was my dd just to make sure she was ok for school tomorrow. Wrt contacting school then no I don't think you should as it sounds like she received good care. As a former teacher, if you did complain then I would wonder why dd was in school and not at home where you could keep an eye on her.

If you are worried about a head injury surely you should go to hospital pronto. Otherwise I suspect your kid had a headache?

Sorry, I think I may have come across wrong. I'm not cross with the school, or upset at how she was or wasn't treated, I just wondered if I should flag it up. I will have a quick chat with the class teacher to see if it was passed on to her.
I don't have any problem at all with the school, they have been amazing and I'm really happy that my dd goes there, but I was just a bit worried. I still think that a child who has had a head injury and is then uncharacteristically very upset, complaining of a headache and not eating should have been closely monitored and I should have been called. Obviously I appreciate I only have dd 's side of the story, which is why I will speak to the class teacher to see if she knows about it.
I guess maybe the shock of what happened yesterday has caught up with me a bit, and how much worse it could have been. How she didn't break her nose or teeth, I don't know. I was very calm and practical when it happened, but if she'd have been crying with a headache while with me today I think I'd have had her down to a&e like a shot. As it is, I can see with hindsight she was probably a bit dehydrated or something, but IMO you don't mess with head injuries as they can turn bad v quickly. Maybe I shouldn't have sent her in today, but she seemed fine last night and this morning, so I wasn't unduly worried.

As a HT I have to say that it seems to me that the school acted in a perfectly reasonable manner. If you were that concerned about your child's head injury you should have kept her at home. We are in the business of education. We are not doctors/nurses/social workers/relationship counsellors/parenting advisors/childminders and have to manage the health & safety of lots of children. It was unreasonable of you to expect your child to get specific 1:1 attention to the detriment of other children.

Can you tell I've had a bad day???

Sorry you've had a shitty day, I genuinely have a huge respect for and am in awe of hts, and teachers, and ta's and support staff etc. etc. I volunteer in dd's school for a couple of hours a week and run an after school club and that does me in! I may have a quick chat with dd's class teacher tomorrow (I'm helping out in the classroom anyway and have a good relationship with her) just to see if she was aware of it, but going no further. Taken on board all your comments. (and just relieved dd is ok)

I know you are upset and worried, but it sounds like they did spend time with her and made a judgement call that she was ok.

You have just got one side of the story, and I imagine she is picking up on your concerns - i.e. arranging a dental appointment.

From what I understand, you also don't think she needs emergency medical treatment this evening, which ties in with the school's action. So I don't think you should mention to the school.

I would not say anything to the school and put it down to a lesson learnt tbh (that you should have told them).

However I would question (to myself) the judgement of a teacher who has a child with obvious facial injuries saying their head hurt and did nothing about it.