Would you say something?

[SgtTJCalhoun]

Dd is apparently level 7 reading (age 6). She reads all her reading books confidently and we read things like Milly Molly Mandy together at home. She doesn't seem to be challenged by the books being sent home. Would you say something or trust that they know what they're doing?

learnandsay - there you go - a prime example - what a rude comment, how dare you suggest I need to see my GP because I came on to a primary eduation forum to ask a question about how to broach an issue with my son and took some really nasty comments to heart or seriously.

The comment about the GP wasn't specifically for you. As far as I'm concerned it relates to anyone (and everyone) who takes mumsnet seriously.

fair enough!

I think what I mean is though, it is easy to doubt yourself when 20 people immediately jump down your throat to tell you that you are boasting/your child is not clever/you are pathetic and pushy etc etc. I think it is what makes me hold back when speaking to the teacher.

I'd look at it exactly the the other way around. Look how much effort has gone into periwinckle's post above. It's excellent. I read it twice. If someone jumped on mumsnet and insulted me I'd think, yeah, right. And how long and how much thought and effort did that post take?!

you are right, periwinkle has given great reasons and explained everything so well. I think I may change how I see things on here with your post in mind learnandsay!!

I would write a simple note in the reading diary along the lines of - dd has recently been reading these books in just 5 mins with no difficulty, please could you check her level. I have hesitated in asking the teacher before but now I don't hesitate if I think either of my dc's books are too easy - I just say can you check the level. Neither of their teachers minded and both were out up a level or two.

I have been told by the head of infants at my DS school that I don't need to be so competitive when I addressed her with regards to the other year one class getting 4 books to take gone a week and my sons class getting 1.

Bearing in mind they knew my son loves reading - I left in years.

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If a teacher said something that stupid and unprofessional to me I'd escalate it through the complaints procedure.

I thought about it to be honest learnandsay but at the end of the day with my DS school I knew I'd get no where.

I just ignore the woman now, literally don't even speak to her, but if anything came up in the future and I had to deal with her, then I will say how unprofessional she was previously and I would like to speak to someone else.

its hardly competitive to want the 2 year 1 classes to send home the same number of reading books. surely that is more of an equality issue.

Exactly periwinkle that's what I argued for equality and all children to be given a fair chance and the same access to resources. Not just for my DS but for all of his class.

I did win though they started sending home equal amounts of books for each class, I was just insulted as well

well at least they did do it but still they shouldn't insult you at the same time! yes all teachers work slightly differently but there is a big difference between 1 and 4 books a week!