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Tips for helping an able but fidgety Y1 reader please!

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spiderlight · 03/06/2013 12:26

DS is in Y1, turned 6 in March. In terms of ability, he is a very able and confident reader, going into a mostly Y2/Y3 literacy group for an hour and a half every day. The school has just introduced 'Success for All' and he has, in his class teacher's words, 'skyrocketed' through the levels to Wings 2, so I've got no concerns about his actual reading ability. But oh my giddy aunt, when we sit down to try and do his reading at home it is instant ants-in-pants time, fidgeting, sliding off the sofa, getting distracted midway through a sentence, silly voices, producing toy cars from his pocket to fiddle with....driving me nuts! Yesterday it took him over an hour to get through a page that I had deliberately selected for what should, based on his ability, have been a quick burst of reading that he could have blasted through in about five minutes if he'd actually sat down and read it!

DH and I are trying to be patient and positive, but we're both getting increasingly frustrated. His teacher goes to great pains to choose books pitched at his ability that she thinks he'll enjoy, and we take him to the library and find non-school books about things he's interested in (cars, cars, Top Gear, cars and cars...), but even with a book he's chosen himself and bounced out of the library all excited about, he still spends more time flopping round the sofa than he does actually reading! I'm not worried about ADHD, I don't think, because he can focus for ages on things he wants to do - playing with cars, drawing cars, watching Top Gear - just not on reading. We've had very occasional comments in his school/home reading diary about sessions when he's been like this at school, but it does seem to be mostly just at home. I've just ordered him a 'tangle' fiddle toy based on a recommendation on another thread, but what else can we try? I really don't want reading to become a battleground.

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spiderlight · 05/06/2013 20:03
Grin

And just to confound and confuse, he has sat and read beautifully tonight, despite being tired and full of sugar after tea at a friend's house!!

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HarumScarum · 05/06/2013 20:59

DD (also Y1, good reader) had a phase last term of being an incredibly GRUMPY reader. So we had a lot of proto-teenage sighing and flouncing and rolling her eyes to heaven. I instituted a sticker chart and once she'd read seven times without a hint of grumpiness, she had seven stickers which could be swapped for a pound to spend as she chose. Her innate avariciousness won out and she stopped being grumpy immediately. After a while she forgot about the stickers.

She doesn't lick, but she chews all the time, mainly her clothes and hair. I think it might be a sort of teething thing.

Shattereddreams · 05/06/2013 22:24

Finding this thread hilarious
Dd did all her teething for molars last year in reception which I put down to tiredness, but was clearly teething hair and mussie chewing etc

DD always has her hands in her Knicks when reading school books, she isn't doing anything, but always puts it there.
Eye rolling check
Flouncing check
Sighing check
Hand in Knicks check

I am currently enforcing read nicely to me every night and do your homework on the first asking on Saturday then I will pay for the full app on the iPad of Winx Club on Sunday.

Ferguson · 05/06/2013 22:41

Hi - retired TA (male) here :

I worked with Yrs 1 & 2 for around 20 years, and Yes, I think you and DH need to 'chill' - DS is probably even cleverer than you realise, and as has been suggested, it has become a 'game' and (don't mean to be rude) but he is playing you for suckers!

If he can read well, surely that's all that matters. There is no valid reason that he HAS to read every day, other than for YOUR satisfaction, and that you can feel you have the 'upper hand', and tell teacher he is reading every day.

Maybe have a 'committee meeting' with DS, and agree some signal that he can give you, AS and WHEN he wants to read. Tell him it is up to him how CLEVER he wants to become, but if he wants to fall behind his peers, that's up to him.

Our DS became a competent reader, but we never 'pushed' and he read when he felt like it. But he got to grammar school, and at university got a First in computer science. In music, he could 'pace' his learning and practice so that he often got Distinction, including at Grade 8.

PS : I've just read your other 'threads' and am sorry to hear of health issues, and hope it improves. More than ever, maybe, if possible, you need to relax and 'chill'. Put DS's reading as the LAST item on your overfull agenda.

spiderlight · 07/06/2013 11:09

Thanks Ferguson. That all makes sense. He is undoubtedly clever than both of us put together and will probably take over the world one day! I'm seeing benefits already from chilling out about it all. The school is about to be inspected and obviously wants to have lots of impressive home reading diaries to show off, but that's not my problem! He's read less overall in the past few days but has been calmer and more focused. The Tangle has just arrived, along with six Car-Mad Jack books, so I'll see how he gets on tonight!

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Looksgoodingravy · 07/06/2013 11:42

Hoping the tangle toys and new books work. I ordered a couple of the tangle toys from ebay and hoping they arrive today, think there might be a fight for them though Grin

We sat outside in the garden yesterday to read. Ds quickly found a thread on his shorts which he kept pulling and then he stood up and said that he needed to cut it off before he could carry on reading Hmm

I will look into the Omega Fish Oil too, it's something I have kept meaning to look into more.

KansasCityOctopus · 07/06/2013 14:19

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spiderlight · 07/06/2013 14:32

Yes, we always have at least one bedtime story - currently reading 'The Giant and the Joneses', which he is loving so far. I sometimes get him to read the first page and I read the rest, but that can go either way!

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MadeOfStarDust · 07/06/2013 14:43

I parent help with reading in Y2 at the primary my girls went to - the first thing the teacher said to me was don't worry if they fidget about!!

Some kids do, some don't - some contort their faces, some reach their arms behind their backs, some pick their noses, some rock back on the chair, others change the subject, or get scared of an ant/fly - but generally they all end up reading 3 or 4 pages of their book.

spiderlight · 07/06/2013 16:27

Mr Gum looks good! Will add that to our wishlist.

DS has just taken the Tangle apart in about twelve seconds. It's gone back together though.

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