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reception ds kicked whilst using the toilets

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kickedatschool · 15/04/2013 22:41

what would you expect to happen and who would you expect to deal with it?

I am not sure what is reasonable and I need help to compose an email.

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LindyHemming · 15/04/2013 22:46

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AuntieStella · 15/04/2013 22:48

I would ask the form teacher exactly what happened and how it's being dealt with. And better in person (followed up by email if there are still points of concern. Or is it impossible for you to get there?

Even reliable DC can inadvertently give an incomplete account of events (or, as discipline of one child may not be readily visible to others, may not have the full picture) so best to start with enquiry.

5318008 · 15/04/2013 22:51

Yes do ask class teacher what happened; bear in mind that you will prob not be told the punishment/sanction handed out to the other child

Agree better in person if poss

5318008 · 15/04/2013 22:54

ANyway, to answer your q

If your kid was kicked I would expect the class teacher to comfort and reassure your child, issue a reprimand to the kicker

It does strike me that my kid often didn't think to tell teacher of an incident at school but recounted, dolefully, at the supper table, later in the day! grrr

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kickedatschool · 15/04/2013 23:46

ds has autism and does not communicate well. the class teacher left at easter. the incident happened before easter. following the after school sports club tonight, ds ws afaid to go to the toilet alone. he will not talk about it further.

it is a bit late to punish the other child really. I am more interested in preventing a further incident.

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AuntieStella · 15/04/2013 23:55

Oh dear. It sounds as if you do need to go in to talk to the new teacher about DC's needs in the round, mention the legacy of this incident, and discuss what is the best support to help him regain confidence in this specifically and in general.

5318008 · 15/04/2013 23:57

Oh sorry, I hadn't realised this happened a while ago

Hmm don't know, then

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kickedatschool · 16/04/2013 21:03

emailed the head teacher yesterday and the only response I got was to speak to the new teacher... who knew nothing about it...as it was the old teacher

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mrz · 16/04/2013 21:43

I imagine the head wants you to inform the new teacher that there was an incident so they can prevent it happening in the future.

TeenAndTween · 17/04/2013 12:27

Inform the new teacher what you have said here.
Ask if DS has been going to toilet in school hours alone this term.
Ask for reassurance and support for DS, to be accompanied if necessary or entrance/exit to toilets supervised when he is in there.
Does he have 1-1 support? If so this level of supervision whoule be asy for them to provide.

imo it is too late to resolve the in itial incident, you need to deal with his fears now.

is there any chance he is getting picked on by other children in the class or do you think this was a one off incident that could have happended to anyone?

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