DD has been the target of a lot of low-level mostly verbal bullying over her time in primary. I've complained to the head, but very little action seems to be taken and I know this is because it's vague, diffuse and hard to articulate, so even harder to combat, to be fair. The trouble is, whilst me and DD will be very grateful to leave the little *rs behind, I think we also need to try and manage the situation to avoid it happening in secondary too. So, here's the latest incident and I'd appreciate some ideas to try.
Kids are all in a choir, Y6 sit on chairs and Y3 on floor (I don't know where Y4 and 5 are, but they aren't relevant really). One of the usual tykes decides she must sit in the middle, but this means some of the others can't see the music/words, so there is some jockeying around to try and cope with it. She tells one of the other girls that DD kicked her in the process and, when the teacher says none of them will sit on chairs as it seems to cause trouble, this other tyke starts whispering DD's name and looking at all the others, as if it's her fault. She protests to first tyke, who says that "kicking" is just a figure of speech and then starts crying just before coming home.
I don't want to have her going to the teacher all the while and I don't think crying is likely to help much either, but I am sick to death of this - I get at least one story a week featuring this first tyke. Any ideas what I should tell her to do?