What would you do?

[Crusoe]

Please be gentle I am very upset.
My beautiful dd is 5 and the youngest in her year. She has some additional needs, no statement or one to one but she does not cope well with change, has anxiety and her behaviour can be challenging when stressed and anxious.
School have previously managed her behaviour well and we have seen great improvements but now due to staffing problems she is on her third teacher since Christmas. For a child who doesn't like change this is bad enough but dd has clearly got herself labeled as the naughty child by this teacher. I am getting tackled by the teacher about behaviour on a regular basis and frankly dread picking her up now.
I am under no illusions that dd can be tricky to manage but she can be managed and other staff can do it.
Dd is clearly distressed and it is impacting on her behaviour at home which is not usually a problem. She has been in trouble at school for breaking things which is out of character and I can see the teacher is not disciplining in the calm empathetic way dd needs but is escalating things and getting dd into a spiral of bad behaviour.
My question is what to do. We have spoken to school at length about dd's problems and strategies to help but it is falling on deaf ears. I have a mtg with class teacher next week - how do I get her to understand?
Thanks for Reading

Poor you and your poor daughter.

FWIW this is what I would do...

1. Try to find out if this latest teacher is going to be there next term or if she only has a few days left?
2. If she is going to brought there next term, write a letter to the teacher expressing your concerns and cc the head. Schools don't like letters because it means its on file for posterity. Ask in the letter for it to be put in your daughters file just to be on the safe side.
3. Meet the teacher, be seen to take notes during the meeting, listen to what she has to say and make your points as clearly and constructively as possible.
4. I will get shot for this one... if you find out that there are only a few days left with this teacher your DD may find that she has diarrhea for a day or so and needs 48 hours clear before returning to school which would have her back in the classroom at the end of next week. I mean she is only 5 so its not like she's going to miss something vital that she'll never hear again. A few sick days plus the upcoming holiday might be enough to let your DD reset herself. It depends on whether you work or not though.

If the class teacher isn't receptive, escalate to the SENCo. Your daughter should have an IEP (Individual Education Plan) at the very minimum. You could also push for Statutory Assessment if you believe her needs will impact her long term. Even if this teacher is only around for a few more days, there's no guarantee the next will be less shit more understanding

And jrr's #4