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Daughter has no-one to play with at school/ what can school do?

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andaluciandog · 14/03/2013 17:32

Hi all,

my daughter is having friendship problems at school which are causing her a lot of anguish.

She had a best friend a couple of years ago who moved areas and schools and since then she has had a bunch of slightly unreliable ?friends? who play with her one minute and the next ostracize her making her very unhappy- these girls seems to have their own little cliques which they always revert back to, leaving my daughter with no-one to play with.

We approached her teacher last year when she was having particular issues with a pair of girls and he had a word with them which we think made it worse as they then brought up the fact that her parents had talked to the teacher and so my daughter is wary about us intervening again.

Though she will be moving schools in September when she enters secondary school, we really want the next 6 months to be a happy time, apart from these issues she loves school and is doing brilliantly; she has good friends outside school too.

Can anyone suggest what we can expect the school to do to help her in this situation, they just seem to want to brush the issue under the carpet. There are very few school clubs for her to go to- should we ask them to provide her with a place to sit inside at break times, surely she can?t be the only child having these issues.

We really appreciate any help you can offer,

Jon

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 14/03/2013 18:48

The only thing I can think of is inviting a classmate over to play one day or for tea? How old is your daughter? Can you talk to her class teacher without her finding out at all? Is the class teacher approachable?

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 14/03/2013 18:51

sorry... just seen that your daughter is moving to secondary school next month.

I wonder if in her case it might do her confidence some good if she was involved in non-school activities so that she could develop friendships in that way.

ThreeBeeOneGee · 14/03/2013 18:54

Your poor daughter, this sounds a bit miserable.

The things I would normally suggest would be for her to go to lunchtime clubs or homework club, but if there aren't any then that's out.

Could she be a helper in the school library or something? Or a 'play leader' helping the younger children in the playground?

ThreeBeeOneGee · 14/03/2013 18:57

I have to say that the ever-changing cliques are very common. DD (Y4) hasn't had a 'best friend' since hers left in Y2. There are three girls who sometimes play with her and sometimes don't, so she goes into school every day not knowing if she'll have anyone to play with Sad. Plus these three girls are always falling out with each other in various combinations. It sounds exhausting for DD. The positive thing is that she has learnt to be content with her own company.

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