My ds aged 3.5 started part time nursery in January and seemed to have settled well. He has a speech delay which is improving greatly but does lead to frustration quite often and he still tantrums quite a bit. I have seen him get physical with his younger brother at home on occasion which is always punished by time out.
He has been in a day nursery since the age of two so I think I may have underestimated the effect of such a big change on him but school have told me about three incidences of violence this week - he hit a boy, hit a teacher and also lay on top of another child as though as to smother them.
I had a good talk with him after the first incident and he understands that it is wrong to hurt people and apologised but then it happened again the next day. And repeat. He says he likes school and the children and teachers and is always happy to go to school.
We are being much stricter on him at home and he is not allowed to watch the tv programme he usually watches tonight which he understands is because he hurt somebody at school but how do I nip this in the bud? Is it a normal thing or is he really acting out?
I know there is some level of hitting in the class as I overheard a father at reception the other day say that two boys (in my son's class) had been hitting his son so perhaps he is picking things up from other children and it is a bit of a rough and tumble class. But I'm really upset, I don't know how seriously the school take this sort of thing and I'm worried about him. I suppose it could be a settling in thing that will ease off by itself but I need some strategies. Have already rung his nursery to let them know what is going on too.