My ds is badly behaved in class, I am genuinely taken aback

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I have just come back from quite a disappointing parent evening.

My ds, year two, is very bright but his behaviour in the class hasn't been great. Mainly copying other trouble making, trying to be funny but also instigating it at times too. I got the impression teacher was concerned.

My concerns are 1) he doesn't behave like this elsewhere e.g home, grandparents, swimming and piano lessens. In fact we are often told how polite he is. We never had this before he started school either, he was a very quiet little boy.

2. It seems to relate largely, to one particular boy, who he insists on playing with and copying. This boy, it seems, is very difficult in class. Now, no kid is perfect and I know nothing about this boy but I have had no feed back from school for six months, thus I presumed all was okay.

3. Are we going to have this all through school?

I don't know who the little boy she described is. I am really taken aback.

Ask to speak to her tomorrow and ask "What are you going to do to overcome DS's bad behaviour? What would you like us to do to support you?"

I would also actually make a written record of what she says.

I wouldn't panic.

Thanks good advice. Going to phone the school tomorrow.

Firstly, I would ask that he is separated from the child he is copying.

mummytime surely that wouldhave been discussed during the parents evening?

You say "We never had this before he started school either, he was a very quiet little boy."

If he started school in reception, he's been at school for a while.

You also say the teacher seemed concerned...was she concerned at the last parents evening?

Yes, you need to ask what the teacher is doing to overcome the behaviour (moving away from distracting child would be one strategy) and what you can do to support at home. As for regular meetings (weekly/fortnightly) with the class teacher to keep up to date with your child's behaviour.

We have never had explicit concern about his behaviour before no. Last year there was some low level sillyness but I put it down to the novelty of school and this boy.

Last report six months ago was fine. We have heard nothing since. I didn't ask what school was doing about it because I was taken aback and the classroom door was open with the boy- in- question's parents sitting right outside.

I will phone and make sure I get a chance to ask these things.

It could have been discussed during parents evening but: sometimes just bad news is given with no discussion of steps; or the parent is so shocked/upset that they don't take in all that is said.

It is very emotional being a parent as the best teachers realise.