I am desperate for advice about 'normal' 6 year old behaviour. My ds is currently in year 2, he is struggling at school, he lacks concentration and the school claims he is disruptive to the class. They do say he is clearly a clever little boy and there doesn't appear to be any malice in his actions but he is none the less disruptive due to the fact he is unable to organise himself. He is constantly losing things at school, for example I bought him a new pair of gloves that were lost within one day! I don't know about at school but at home he finds it hard to wait for anything, and dislikes any unavoidable changes of plan. He also constantly chews his clothes so much that holes appear and I dread to think how many buttons he could potentially have swallowed!!!
My main concern is that he could have adhd however all I can get out of his school teacher and the headteacher is that they couldn't possibly comment as they are not an experts!!!!! The head teacher seems very keen on laying the blame on our doorstep saying that we obviously do not have enough structure in our household and is he getting enough attention etc etc, which as a full time working mother I find only adds to the guilt I feel on a daily basis. However my dd who started school in September doesn't seem to be having any of these issues, I do not feel the same level of dread when it comes to picking her up from her teacher than I used to when picking up my son (every other day he would have done something, usually to do with not paying attention!!!), she loves her reading and is always bringing home pictures and drawings she has done. My husband thinks I am being paranoid and this is just ds being a 6 year old boy.
I visited our GP about 6 months ago who basically told me our ds just needs to mature a little and to communicate with the school more. His teacher has recently implemented an IEP to help with his behaviour and concentration and we have put a set routine in place at home so that we do the same thing every day and he knows what to expect.
I don't really know what to do, am I being paranoid and looking to blame something other than myself? Should I go back to the gp? Where can I find further advice?