What would you think if this was happening in your y3 child's class?

[RunnersWorld]

And what, if anything, would you do?

One of the children is very disruptive, including bouts of physical and verbal violence, e.g.:

-Throwing chairs
-Swearing at the class and teacher
-Tearing up his own and others' work
-Pacing around the class when they are supposed to be working/listening
-Walking out of class meaning the teacher has to leave to bring him back
-There have also been two complaints from children/parents about him touching girls inappropriately (now has 121 at lunchtimes, so is constantly watched)

At least one from this list happens daily, once it was so extreme that the teacher had to remove the rest of the class from the room while two TA's tried to calm him. School was unable to contact anyone to collect him so he spent the rest of the day in the Head's office, as the TA basically refused to work with him. He's big for his age, strong and scary when he loses control.

My DS2 is in this class. I know all the detail because of my job, most parents of course will only have patchy stories relayed by their DC, but they all know there is a problem. To avoid drip feeding, I will also say I know that he is a very damaged child as a result of sexual abuse and currently living with a foster family. Other parents know nothing of this of course.

I am interested in an opinion from the POV of the parents who know nothing of his background, please.

[mrz]

inappropriatelyemployed they will from April
^All mainstream schools, whether maintained, academies or free schools will
receive a notional SEN budget as part of their formula allocation as well as an age weighted pupil unit. They will be expected to use this funding to provide up to £10,000 of support for any pupil with SEN. For pupils with higher level needs who require over the £10,000 of educational provision, the Local Authority can agree to provide top up funding to the school which will be based on the assessed need of that individual pupil.^

[mrz]

No MrsDeVere as a mother of a child with SEN I do not resent any child but I do resent your assumption that there is pots of money to throw around.

[inappropriatelyemployed]

I think, to be fair, as a parent of a child with SEN, I think the system creates resentment and frustration as it perpetuates tension between child and school and starves schools of resources, training and access to specialist services. Those specialist services are often nothing of the sort anyway and sometimes (not always) just pump out generic provision without ever meeting the child.

This means that it is too easy to see the battle as one between one child's needs and the needs of the other children - the greater good.

[mrz]

I think only a fool would imagine that there wouldn't be children with SEN in schools

[inappropriatelyemployed]

Yes Mrz but different LAs have different ways if interpreting this. I know - I am stuck between two of them!

[hazeyjane]

It may be the way you are writing but you really come across as resenting that child in your class and like the OP you have given a fair bit of information about them.

Enough for a parent to at least suspect you are talking about their child

I felt the same way as Mrs DeVere.

[LottieJenkins]

I am also horrified that the OP has shared so much information. I am in a job where i come into contact with children and i would never share information like this!!

[mrz]

hazeyjane the parent was talking about the OP which is not me so please get your facts right

[mrz]

By "these kids" do you mean my son HotheadPaisan?

[inappropriatelyemployed]

I have to agree on the sharing of the information, whether or not the child can be identified. This is not the place and I don't know what the purpose was. It's like the lead in topic on a Radio 5 phone in with Nicky Campbell - you know they 'immigrants, do we like them or are they stealing our jobs' or 'does a paedophile live next door to you' etc etc

[mrz]

No MrsDeVere I have not given a detailed run down of the disabilities of the child in MY class.

[inappropriatelyemployed]

The sharing of info in relation to the OP I mean

[mrz]

No that is not the child in my class MrsDeVere

[hazeyjane]

non verbal, incontinent, unable to move without help, unable to eat without help, limited vision, unable to sit unaided ...yes the 1-1 support can go off and help other non statemented children

Sorry mrz, we must be talking at crossed purposes, I thought that Mrs DeVere was talking about this post. Personally I don't think you should be talking about a pupil in your class in such a detailed fashion, and I obviously got the wrong end of the stick, but it did come across as resentful.

[hazeyjane]

Sorry, I assumed you were talking about this child

the child in my class who requires 100% 1-1 support including at lunch times has been allocated 1-1 for 100% because that is what she needs. Sheis developmentally around 22months and severly brain damaged