Hair at school

[1974mummy]

Hi
My daughter had long hair which I always tie in a pony tail and then plait every morning for school. By the time she comes home her hair is always down.
We have just been sent a letter from school and one if the points is that all long hair should go tied up.
How can I make sure my dd's hair stats tied up! I really don't want to cut her hair
Any ideas would be great
Xx

Is she pulling out the bobble then?

I would tell her that if she pulls the bobble out, you'll have to cut it. If she doesn't care, maybe you'd be better off cutting it anyway. Is it really really long?

Hi 1974mummy:

I agree with haberdashery - tell her that if she doesn't leave it tied back, it will have to be cut short (in order to follow school dress code).

Then ask her what she wants to do.

If she doesn't like bobbles try big clips, to hold hair back.

Try doing hair in bun.

Try something funky and trendy -

fishtail pony tail:

HTH

I find best style for staying in is 2 pigtails then the pigtails plaited - so 4 bobbles total.

Some girls have their hair french plaited and seems to stay in well (I'm not upto that level of hairdressing at 8am

Agree be firm - if she wants her hair long she must comply with the school rules. I don't tolerate moaning about having hair brushed from DD - if you want that style you care for it properly.

I also spray dd's with hairspray - anti nit measure but also keeps hair tidy.

Yes agree, say you either keep it tied up all day or have it chopped short. I did this in the summer with my DTDs - one decided she wanted a short bob so off all her hair went (!) and the other agreed to try and keep the hairbands on the hair. Sometimes they do come out accidentally but at least she has stopped unclipping all her hair (they are 7).

It's part of the shape of the universe.

You can try threats and rewards, but the truth is school sends letters home, but don't seem to tell the girls off for undoing their hair.

They undo their hair and the older ones redo their hair in Friday assembly, no one says anything.

Neither of mine has ever reported primary school actually caring if their hair is up.

It's a phase that only lasts a year or two, then they learn to plait their own hair and you have no idea whether it was tidy at school or has been done two minutes ago to shut up moaning mothers.

Senior school does PE gives out detentions if you don't tie it up.

U tube has lots of good videos of hair styling, DD2 loves them and so do I.

She loves copying them and now twists her hair neatly back from her face (no amount of nagging from me had any effect at all). Also she lets her big sister do the complicated ones and they are really sweet together. Normally big sister isn't cool at all.

A lot of primary schools round here are very clear on hair up due to nits.

There was a certain chuckling among the year 6 parents when the head told them that if their hair was beyond a certain length they would have to tie it up, boy or girl by the next week. A good number of year 6 boys had their hair cut over the weekend. At least a couple of the parents were because they'd been trying to persuade them to have it cut.
The teachers will give out bobbles to a child whose hair isn't tied back.

Interestingly the secondary schools don't have a rule about it. You see them walking to and from school with hair down. It always surprises me, one of the (state) secondaries is very very strict about uniform-they'll send a child home for incorrect uniform, and they have strict regulations (down to things like number of pleats on boy's trousers ) but no regulations on hair-even for PE or science.

My Dd (reception class) always goes to school looking smart with her hair tied up neatly. Coming out of school the pony tail has slipped from high up to round her neck. She also has lots of whispy bits round the sides that always fall out of the bunch. She looks a right state!

She has recently started removing her bobbles too. Once at school but usually as soon as she gets in the door.

I use this website for good tutorials on different styles. The mum has numerous daughters so had many years of practice!
www.cutegirlshairstyles.com/

I had longer hair when I was younger and my mum gave me the ultimatum of look after it or loose it. I ended up with very short hair!!

I would ask her why she is pulling them out. Maybe they are uncomfortable?

In any case, I would probably just say that she must keep it tied back or you will cut it short. Short haircuts can look really nice. My dd has a fringe and a bob and we get loads of compliments. Her hair is straight and medium thick and it always looks nice, even if not brushed. It is really practical for brushing and washing as well. She is only in reception so not yet aware of fashion etc!

My dd proudly told her class when she was about 7, "my mum's rubbish at hair."

She was bang on the money. A ponytail was pushing the boat out for me. Fortunately her godmother was brilliant at it, so whenever she was around, dd could swan into school showing off French plaits and allsorts.