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Kept in at playtime - no snack?

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icepole · 15/01/2013 22:46

Is that the norm? I have no issue with ds being kept in if the teacher thinks it is needed but he didn't get to eat his banana either. Seems a long time to go without food. Breakfast at 8, lunch at 12:30.

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FabulousFreaks · 15/01/2013 22:47

I think that is terrible and I would complain. It is far too long especially for an active, growing boy.

TheOriginalSteamingNit · 15/01/2013 22:48

Is he still alive?

I used to have breakfast before school and lunch and lunchtime, and am pretty much ok these days.

forevergreek · 15/01/2013 22:51

Thy shouldn't use no food as a consequence to something. But I really don't think that's a long time without food. Children eat at 8/8.30- eat lunch at 12.30/1 here every day, they only ever have a snack if at someone else's house ( but often aren't hungry at all). It's only 4 and a big hours. ( they are pre school age btw)

As an adult I don't snack at all

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icepole · 15/01/2013 22:54

Wow, I snack loads! I would be starving! Maybe I am just judging by my own greedy standards! Just don't like the thought of him being hungry at school.

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tethersend · 15/01/2013 22:59

No problem with the lack of food, but I would be questioning the behaviour management strategy. How old are the children and how often is this happening?

Branleuse · 15/01/2013 23:01

wot, no bananas?

Branleuse · 15/01/2013 23:02

You will look like a loony if you say anything about this, unless your child is diabetic or something.

GreenShadow · 15/01/2013 23:04

I don't see the problem. 4 1/2 hours is fine and if he gets hungry, so what. It may mean the staying in at break has more impact on him.

MyCatHasStaff · 15/01/2013 23:04

Personally I think he should have been allowed his snack. We keep children in at break times sometimes, and there doesn't seem to be a 'rule' about it as such. Some teachers take the view that it's tough, you shouldn't have got yourself a detention, but I'm a softie and try to make sure they have something. Children who don't have a snack at home may still have one at school, I think they get more hungry at school, and it's hard to concentrate if you're hungry. How old is DS?

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 15/01/2013 23:05

I wouldn't snack in that time either* and it wouldn't bother me if they'd gone without their mid morning snack. I'd be far more concerned about what had caused this punishment.

*evenings are a whole other issue

RaspberryLemonPavlova · 15/01/2013 23:09

Well two of mine had to go from breakfast until lunchtime without a snack as they wouldn't eat fruit, and the school didn't allow alternatives. So I wouldn't be unduly concerned by the length of time.

I don't like food being withheld as punishment thought.

ihearsounds · 15/01/2013 23:10

41/2 hours without food isn't the end of the world. What about lunch until dinner... Or ooh what about sleeping. Lot more than a couple of hours, unless you wake during the night for food.

Feeling hungry isn't a bad thing.

simpson · 15/01/2013 23:28

Agree with others, the actual going without food is not a real problem (it should make him eat more at lunch!!) however I don't agree with food being used in a punishment and if he is kept in for whatever reason, then lack of playing with his friends should be enough punishment, not the losing a snack too if that makes sense...

steppemum · 15/01/2013 23:38

my dcs don't have a snack at school. Infant age get free fruit, they eat it sometimes and not others. Juniors don't get anything unless they bring it in.

I don't think it is a big deal

goingmadinthecountry · 16/01/2013 00:17

If a child had asked I'd have said yes to the snack. If he/she didn't ask, what can you do? Mind you, I wouldn't let a child lose all of break unless they'd been utterly vile at that age either.

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icepole · 16/01/2013 02:12

He wasn't naughty, just slow with his work, he had to stay in and finish it. He is well behaved although we are having some problems with extreme shyness.

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SavoyCabbage · 16/01/2013 03:18

The teacher probably forgot to remind him or it didn't occur to him/her.

I wouldn't feed my children in that time at home.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 16/01/2013 03:26

Is he being deliberately slow? If he could be quicker but is faffing around - fine, if he's doing his best but isn't as quick as the others I'd be having words.

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icepole · 16/01/2013 06:05

No, he was doing art. He is very careful when he draws, likes to be neat.

I wasn't planning on saying anything, Ds didn't say much either. He certainly wouldn't have asked as he doesn't speak to his teacher at all. I just felt unsettled about it last night. Bad experience of primary school myself and I worry about what happens there a bit too much probably.

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mrz · 16/01/2013 06:59

Art first lesson in the morning? unusual... did the teacher withhold his banana or did he just not have the chance to eat as he was working?

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icepole · 16/01/2013 07:45

He didn't ask for it no. It wasn't art art sorry, he was drawing things he liked and did not like so not sure what that would be for. He's just very particular when he draws.

I think I have issues with school, I had such a horrible time there, things like this unsettle me easily. Ds does not appear traumatised!

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wheresthebeach · 16/01/2013 09:12

Then leave it...he's fine and if you make a big deal of it then it will become important to him.

I hated primary school too so I know how you feel. Best thing you can do for you DC is to ensure he enjoys it. They pick up so much from us.

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icepole · 16/01/2013 09:21

I was posting here just to settle myself really. No plans to talk to the school or Ds. I do worry that he will pick up on my negative feelings about schools. I like his teacher though and the school is nice, a lot different from the one I went to! He is my first and in p.1 and I find it hard to hand him over for all those hours, I feel I should be there to protect him.

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