DD is 9, September-born. She's always been a fairly middle-level achiever, nothing oustanding but no causes for concern either.
Th problem is that, since September, she's been placed on the 'top table' with the high-achieving children, some of whom are her best friends. The teacher thought she would benefit from being given a boost as she is a conscientious and sensible girl with reasonable Y3 levels.
However, she is not working to the group's level in Reading (comprehension) and Maths. She seems to be ok in Writing, especially when she takes her time to focus on more complex sentence structures, spellings, openers, punctuation etc.
The problem is this: she now seems to be under pressure to improve or move tables to a lower group, and as all the children seem to know the pecking order, she sees this as a loss of face.
I don't think she was a suitable candidate for the top table in the first place and would have been better off in a lower group where she was more able to keep up the pace and stanadrd of work.
So - do I work with her at home to try and improve her performance (she's not the most willing participant in homework and extra work), or let the teacher decide whether to move her or not and leave her to find her own level without added work and pressure?
I don't want to let her down by not trying to work with her, but at the same time I don't think it's a good idea to push her to reach a level that's she's not able to reach.
Sorry - very long I know.