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Is that asking too much from dd's teacher?

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OhChristmasOh · 21/12/2012 08:34

Trying to keep it short.
dd was being out of school a few weeks ago as she was ill. During the days where she wasn't at school, the class did some art work.
When she came back to school, she went back home with some stuff to do some art work, amongst others stuff, but no explanation from the teacher as to what to do or what is was for.

Move on a few weeks and the teacher ask for art work back as she needs it to make the christmas present from the children. We didn't have it any more as no one thought it was important.
So I propose to do something similar at home with dd to 'make up for it'. I agree with the teacher that she would bring it to school on the monday. dd happily did the art work and spend a few hours on it. She brought it to school on Monday.

Then yesterday, all the children were coming out with their 'present' for the parents. But not dd...
Being very shy, she hadn't given it to the teacher, the teacher hadn't asked for it so dd didn't have anything in her hands, unlike all the other children.
She is in Y3 but one of the youngest of her year (August baby) and actually relatively immature. She was very upset not to have anything to bring home (she was planning to give it to her grandparents 'as we had seeing it already').

I feel like dd has been penalized because she was off school ill and that the teacher communicated badly with us re the importance of said art work.

Was it really too much to ask the teacher to check with dd if she had the art work we agreed she would do at home?

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roadkillbunny · 21/12/2012 18:02

If she didn't hand it in, hasn't she still got it?

Greensleeves · 21/12/2012 18:03

I don't think I have ever forgotten something that has put a child in that situation, no. But if I did (not being perfect) I would be mortified and would apologise to the child and the parent for having failed to do my job properly.

Teachers can be wrong, you know. It's OK. The sky won't fall in.

nailak · 21/12/2012 18:04

dds school has notices saying that from year 1 it is the childs responsibility to hand homework in, and if they dont take it out of folder and hand in it wont be marked. this is to encourage independence.

ArielTheBahHumbugMermaid · 21/12/2012 18:07

Teachers have a million things in their heads this week. She will have forgotten. Not worth stressing.

Even forgetful people can become teachers. I know. Shocking.

mrz · 21/12/2012 18:16

I'm sure the teacher would be mortified if she knew

sweetpea31 · 21/12/2012 18:44

I don't get how the teacher could have not asked if they were given out at the end of the day for the parents. I know as a teacher I would have given them out or asked the children to get them and then asked if they all had theirs. The children would have had an explanation about what was to happen if it was a whole class event. I can not see how every other child would have theirs with them being given out without yours being asked! Maybe your child did not hear her ask? Maybe your child did not know it was in their bag (has been known if parents pack it) or maybe she was shy of getting it out knowing hers was from home and theirs was in school. Maybe ask the teacher what direction she gave the children and if your child was asked before getting upset. It might shed light before you make assumptions. If she did forget then it gives her the chance to apologise! She can not apologise for something she hasn't realised has happened.

mrz · 21/12/2012 18:50

and then asked if they all had theirs. would the OPs shy child have said anything?

sweetpea31 · 21/12/2012 18:53

which is why i said maybe was shy of getting it out

mrz · 21/12/2012 19:03

So if the teacher had asked if everyone had their gift the OPs child may not have spoken up (leaving the teacher to think everyone had their gift).

yousankmybattleship · 21/12/2012 19:08

Sorry, but you're making a fuss about nothing. In year 3 they should be learning to organise themselves and it not the teacher's job to tell your DD to hand in something she had done at home.

It is a shame, but really not the end of the world. Maybe it will stick in your DD's mind and she'll take a little more responsibilty for her own work next time.

DeWe · 21/12/2012 23:11

I frequently have conversations with dd2 (presently in year 4) that go along the lines of:
Dd2: "You forgot my X,Y and Z. I had to use whatever instead."
Me: "I showed you where I put it in your bag."
Dd2: "Well, I looked when Mrs. G. asked for it and it wasn't there..."
Me: (looking in bag) "Here it is, exactly where I told you."
Dd2:

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