Was this horribly pfb? (Reading related)

[Spindelina]

Fil loves buying dd (4 months) tat gifts.

Most recent offering was a plastic spinner thing that, when it stopped on a letter, played a sound clip along the lines of "A. A is for apple" in a really irritating tinny, American voice

I was under the impression that learning the names of letters wasn't terribly helpful (especially e.g. W)

Was I being horribly pfb to get DH to see if fil still had the receipt?

[DreamsTurnToGoldDust]

Your poor FIL

[sh77]

Rude indeed. You may think his gifts are tat, but what about the time and effort he put into choosing and buying something? I say this as someone whose own mother gave her grandson his first present 20 months after he was born. She is the most tight- fisted woman on the planet and I felt it that she couldn't be bothered to spend even 1 pound on him (despite a wardrobe full of chanel handbags and shoes). Appreciate your fil's gesture instead of behaving like a brat yourself.

[headinhands]

As far as I am aware they do need to know the names of the letters and the pure sounds they make which is basically the old way of making the sound but without the unhelpful schwa noise on the end. Is that right? And anyway it doesn't matter now as dc won't be paying much attention will she?

[SleighbellsRingInYourLife]

:o

I was thinking "well, if you managed to steer a child to 4 years of age without learning the letter names, might be worth hiding the toy".

Then realised the baby in question is younger than my baby! :o

She can barely hold a rattle, never mind learn the names of the letters.

"I hate those electronic learn-the-letters things - I have yet to witness any child learn anything from them, so its just noise."

DD2 got a "laptop" for SIL last Christmas at 22 months.

2 days later she had memorised every letter name.

Having totally failed to get DD1 to nursery without knowing her ay bee cees, DD2 was my great phonics hope.

Damn you SIL :o

[HappyMummyOfOne]

Your poor FIL. Are you that rude to everyone?

If you dont like a gift, then be gracious and donate later to charity.

If you are this precious re education now at least your childs future techers will have a great topic of conversation in the staffroom.

[AppleOgies]

You have your FIL his gift back... You don't have PFB, you're just rude!

[AppleOgies]

Gave not have!

[SauvignonBlanche]

Hilarious - amazingly PFB!

[Molehillmountain]

You were being pfb about it. But everyone has moments like that. I am making sure I remember as many as possible of mine so that I don't get cross with the dc if and when they have their own pfb with moments to match.

[Wigeon]

If you rejected the present on the basis that it would be unhelpful for your (4 month old) DD in learning to read, then yes, very PFB and YABU.

If you rejected the present actually because it was a horrible bit of plastic tat (and somehow you thought that it would be a more acceptable reason for rejecting it to talk about the impact on DD's reading), then YA also BU because the correct answer to being given a present, not matter how vile, is always always "thank you very much, how kind of you, what a nice thought". Then "lose" it and give to the nearest charity shop.

But a tiny bit of credit to starting a thread in which you clearly already realise you were probably being unreasonable! And you are no doubt rather sleep deprived and hormonal.