Is it ok for a teacher to raise their voice at a 4 year old for interrupting?

[thepiedpiper]

As the subject really. Mixed age class and the 4 yr old was asking a question, got told loudly not to interrupt and the teacher said Iam getting cross, raised their voice, child told to work in an adjoining room. As a parent helper in the classroom I felt this was bullying, or am I too sensitive?

Yeah your being soft. I would raise my voice if my DD kept interrupting me, so would expect a teacher to do the same.

Interrupting is rude,I wouldn't want my dc's lessons interrupted and tbh I'd be more concerned if it wasn't jumped on.

Thank you for all your comments, I have helped in this class for a couple of years, and never heard the teacher get quite this cross before so I suppose I was a bit shocked. I think maybe this child, who is usually no problem just asked for help at the wrong time as to be fair to 'child' the class doesn't use putting up hands, normally they just ask for help.

having a bad day perhaps?

don't we all have bad days?

Child was being rude interrupting the teacher mid presentation. Child was firmly told not to interrupt but child carried on. Child was removed from presentation area so that he/she could not disrupt the classes education. I think it's OK.

Sounds fair enough to me-hopefully she won't do it again.

I am a reception teacher and I would do this, the only exception would be that I wouldn't say I was getting cross. I'd give a couple of reminders and then out to next room with ta. I wouldn't raise my voice in volume, either, just change the pitch so they knew I meant it. The children are clear about my expectations for their behaviour.

Way too sensitive. By this stage in the year the children know what the expectations are. If they don't follow them there have to be consequences, particularly when the other children are being affected.

I always find it interesting watching the dynamic of families after school. Over the years, there have been several parents who stay late in the playground while their little darlings "have one more turn" on the slide etc "just one more then ... oh OK just one more ... this is your last turn ... this really is your last turn ... I need to go now ... OK one more then ... etc, etc, etc".

Those are the very same children who don't listen on the carpet either.

Ha! Reminds me of mums I've had come in saying their little darling doesn't like being shouted at. When (after some sage advice very early in my career) I ask the child themselves to show or describe what happened or tell me exactly when, it very often turns out that the child sees "shouted at" as a synonym for "told off", even if that telling off happened in a steady, normal tone of voice. On one memorable occasion, I quietly said to the child, "When did this happen?" and the child (who often reduced others to tears with unkindnesses) burst into tears and wailed, "See, she is shouting at me, everybody shouts at me, nobody loves me!". Mum then said, "I will never shout at you darling..." and threw me a reproving look. Sigh. Surprisingly enough, the child's behaviour towards others, AND her friendships and general happiness improved with some focused work on how to be kind and how you make others feel. Which did, on occasion, entail raised voices to stop her in her tracks.

I don't know, I wasn't there. It would depend on the child, the teacher, the voice used, and the situation.

If you felt uncomfortable, maybe it was over the top - I definitely wouldn't say bullying, though I have never, ever heard of a child in our school's Reception class being sent to work in another room. Sit by the teacher yes, sent out? No.

Just to say that sometimes my ds in reception got so stressed by school that he needed to be removed from the classroom and spend a few minutes in peace and quiet.

The teacher did this with my knowledge that it was best for him. If a parent helper had been in, they might well have wondered why he apparently was sent out for very little, as it wouldn't have been clear to them that he needed to be out of the classroom for his sanity.