maizieD, yes in an ideal world, you're right, as all anyone wants is the appropriate help for their child, but a lot of parents feel frustrated with schools and teachers, which is why so many go down the private testing route. In our case the school came to us to say DS should be assessed, but couldn't say when that might happen as it was dependent on waiting for the LA Ed Psych, so we decided to pay over the summer.
Few points back, but I think if a child is dyslexic they always will be. Yes you can help with strategies, but they'll never not have their brain as it's who they are. If you accept that, then I think it's best for them to be given the label of dyslexia. Yes it's an incredibly wide spectrum, but wherever you are on it, it's still incredibly helpful for the individual, both in terms of self esteem but also in terms of being able to ask for help.
It's also useful for the parent. I used to give DS quite a hard time sometimes for writing messily, or not spelling words correctly when he was doing his homework. Now I can see that he was trying, but just finds it nigh on impossible to do what seems simple to me, eg: write on a line. It's made a huge difference to how I see his work and how I talk to him about his homework.
That then translates to the classroom, so he's no longer told to re-write as it's illegible, but the teachers will look with him at working on specific letter formation, or specific spelling to try and help cement it in his head.
All of this clearly helps the child, as the stress is lifted, so instead of shutting down because they feel embarrassed by their work, they know why they find some things hard and if it's treated correctly can feel empowered. So with my son for example, his creative writing's rocketed, as he's not so stressed about being criticised for poor writing/ spelling, so has been freed to write what he's capable of.
Basically the label of Dyslexia means it gives you as a person the legitimate right to shout that you need help/ aren't stupid, etc, etc.. It gives parents a bit more clout too, as though a school doesn't have to recognise it, the Ed Psych breakdown does highlight the problems for the child and what they could use some help with.
Maizie and MRZ, I'm sure you're both great teachers who help kids and spot their individual needs, but we had that with our school too, and even then until there was no extra help without the label of dyslexia. DS's teacher begged us to get him tested, as she said it was the only way he'd get the 1:1 help he clearly needs. She's been proven right and it's still a bit of a battle.
Blimey, what a long post. Basically I agree with Mutteroo. 