Ahh so many things can relate to in your post so do empathise as parent whos not a teacher schools and nc levels are flipping confusing.
Im a year ahead.
dd1 went to nursery from 11months all way up to starting to school and I had no worries about how she was doing developmentally she also attended the preschool next door.
We picked a smallish primary next door rc, had good ofsted at time, lovley grounds, average sats, most of her freinds went there,
We were shocked to get homework in reception, dd loves art, she really enjoyed reception.
At last reception parents evening they said shes doing well, behaves well my only concern was reading seemed very slow.But they said not to worry just chill so I did.
Year 1 -first parents evening everything fine.
even more homework
dd said was harder than reception but enjoyed it all the same.
By time of 2nd parents evening must have been feb /march term one dd recognised as struggling with reading and put in phonics group blending for 8weeks with ta.
But cynical me thinks mainly to do with phonics test introduced last year and she passed 36 out of 40.
Some of her close freinds seperated in other class as its to do with age 30eldest in year 1 class and 15youngest in r1.
fast foward to end of year.
she ended on level 3 ort-not sure on colours will have to check ad bored hating reading
struggled with her maths.
folder sent home with year 1 work mostly incomplete saying needed lots of help with this.
end year report 1b-expectation by our school was 1a
A lot depends on chort but quite a few hit 1 and 2cs even the younger ones.
dd got very upset end of year 1 during summer term that she was notcibly way behind here all her freinds reading levels, she knew what everyone wqas on dident realise how competative little people can get.
She got 1b writing, science , numeracy and reading.
So over summer dident know what to focus on.
wed did reading challange at libary told her to forget about flipping levels.
We did carol vordmans summer camp -boosted her confidence a bit.
tried to start year 2positive frame of mind.
what did we get -well the 15youngest now back in her class but tend to stick to their own group socially.
Majority of younger ones talking july ausut birthdays on higher levels and top table.
Lost some freinds who were older in seperate class and 2got moved up on ability not age !
my dd ended up on bottom table for maths and numeracy.
offered no additional maths support also not extra phonics as she passed the phonics test yet is one lof low level readers in the class.
I made a point of seeing the teacher and telling her how competative kids were and how its damagoing dds confidence and self esteem.
I had to go in twice to say levels too easy please can move up one, please can we read a whole book not 3pages, got impression year 2 teacher hated me, also got to see how she spoke to dd not impressed saying things like shes dissapointed in her and giving her 2lots of maths homework as got some wrong cue lots of tears and being todl off for not listening when really dd dident understand and wanted extra help.
I then made appointment with head-who dident see me saw deputy head who doesnt know dd and says to me
if dd gets 2c at end of year 2 its not end of world.
yes it is as shes expected to get to 2b thats average some will get higher or even get level 3s dont want her forever playing catchup or seeing teacher all time.
The cracker was maybe its not schools fault maybe she started school at low level or did not so well reception.
After that went home dug out old reception report and efys scores.
she scored average 6 for reading and writing-which at that time was fair score and 7-8 out of 9 for numeracy and other things.
s so she was above average so was year 1 where he fell behind in class of 30, dd dd like her teacher though.
ofsted was downgraded last term due to low level attainment.
I then checked sats again with local schools-near the bottom.
There were other issues minor to some.
last year not picked for primary olmpics , school council
only 1 trip a year
no after school clubs at all
no music instruments until year 5.
dd very sporty, active and loves art, wants to do an instrument.
I think these extra curricular make kids realise its not all about academics that they can excel other areas too and be recognised for that success.
so we looke dround another school.
she starts mon-bit nervous but she wasent happy.
new schools offering
sports, netball, drama, football, choir, recorder, art club and seems lot less pushy and smaller.year 3 she can do intrument.
As shes year 2 its sats in england and by end of yera 2 she needs to have climbed 3sublevels from 1b to 2b so thats the aim.
we really did try to work oit out with school but thourght nothing much would change.