Angry mum shouting at ds

[Lavenderhoney]

My ds age 5 was playing with another boy -apparently they were pinching each other and laughing. Ds pinched a bit too hard and made a tiny mark on the other boy. The boys were made to apologise, agreed it was an acident dye to play getting out of hand and I was told so I knew.

The next week the other boys mum started screaming at ds for injuring her son, and shook her fist in his face. It all happened really fast so I couldn't stop her. I complained to the school who took it up with her, but she hasn't apologised and ignores us all now, which is good.

Ds is a nervous wreck now and will only walk behind me clutching my legs. He hates being left at school now.

Is this usual - my ds was bullied at school last year and it didn't occur to me to corner the boy who dd it or shout at his parents. Has anyone else had this and what did you do?

This isn't normal behaviour on her behalf at all. I thought you were going to say that the other mum had shouted at your ds immediately after the event, which would have been bad enough, not a week later!

I think you need to speak to the teacher re helping your ds feel more confident/comfortable in school.

Was she yelling about the pinching or was something else going on?

I agree with Rosebud. I'm not surprised your son is now nervous about going to school, work with his teacher / school to build his confidence and let him know that you and the teacher are there to help and protect him. Sorry this has happened.

Thx- no she was shouting it was a premeditated event and ds who was at a new school and has no history of hurting anyone even his baby sibling targeted her son. She did try to backtrack with the head by saying she was overcome with emotion but he told her a week later and waiting for us in the corridor is not indicative of being overcome with emotion, esp as it was all finished and the boys were playing nicely anyway and had clearly forgotten all about it. Usually someone picks up her ds, so she had to wait to get to the school

Glad to hear its not normal occurrence for people. The teacher is great and doing hs best.

She sounds like a nightmare! The school sound fantastic though.