Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Primary education

Join our Primary Education forum to discuss starting school and helping your child get the most out of it.

Swimming in KS2

18 replies

Cazzymaddy · 18/09/2012 15:46

I write this really upset for my DD2 (age 10) who has just started Year 6 in her normally lovely state primary school. They have been going swimming since Year 1 for 6 weeks (1 session per week) every year. She has progressed from being a non- swimmer to now swimming unaided (don't know how far she can swim in distance). She has never particularly liked one of the swimming teachers but has always been happy enough to go.

However, she had one session last Thursday and this week, cried her little heart out on Monday evening and again this morning that she didn't want to go- but would only tell me that she didn't want to put her face in the water. I have just spoken to her teacher on the phone to tell her that she is really upset and she basically said 'well she has to go as it's part of the National Curriculum'. She did say she would check with the TA who goes with them but my daughter is not one to cry or fuss at school, so im sure she would have not showed any emotion last week. This has left me feeling really upset for my daughter as she is so upset. My daughter is bright, has lots of friends and otherwise really happy at school- we have never taken her out of anything at school in the past. Has anybody got any ideas? My gut feeling is to write a letter refusing her permission to go but I normally have such a good relationship with the school and her teacher (who she's had as her class teacher for 2 years so appeared to know her quite well) and seems a shame to mess this up in her last year. I appreciate in life we have to do things we don't always want to do, but she was so upset and we do swim on holiday and in the school holidays locally as well and she absolutely loves going to the pool with me and her older sister.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Cazzymaddy · 18/09/2012 15:55

Teacher just rang me back and said that the TA told her that they played a game at the end where the competition was to see who could hold their face under the water the longest so if she doesn't want to have to do that on Thursday she won't have to. Not sure this is he answer cos it will just make her different. At the moment, I am still really upset but becoming angry that her teacher would be happy for her to go with her so upset- AIBU at this? I feel like I'm not protecting her enough at the moment.

OP posts:
ReallyTired · 18/09/2012 16:03

Has your dd had any swimming lessons outside school? I am surprised that an eleven year old struggles with putting her face on the water if she has had swimming lessons. Learning to hold your breathe is an important part of swimming.

I think you are being a over protective. I think you would be better to provide her with a pair of googles and tell her that she is going swimming whether she likes it or not. The school are not forcing her to put her face on the water and its unreasonable to expect the school to change the lesson for other children.

Sometimes pandering to anxiety can actually make a child more anxious.

lljkk · 18/09/2012 16:05

^ That about covers it.

WineOhWhy · 18/09/2012 16:07

WOuld you take her out of maths lessons if it was maths that was causing her to be upset?

I woudl send her this week so long as you feel she is safe and tell her she does not need to play that game. I dont think it makes her different in a stnad out way - not so different as missing the lesson completely. The other DC will have their heads under the water so won't actually see that she doesn't. Does she wear goggles? If not, I would get her some.

If she remains very upset about it after this week, then you can consider further, but you need to get her to explain her concerns.

elfycat · 18/09/2012 16:13

Can she touch her face to the water at all? If so I would suggest she just ducks her face in, for as long as she feels able to.

Even if it's just nose in the water for a microsecond the other children will be busy with their own chlorine-ridden eyes.

I didn't manage the second task on my schools agenda-for-swimming until long after I'd left. I always tried though. I was 14 before I could put my face in the water.

I'm now a scuba-diver with additional qualifications.

ImaginateMum · 18/09/2012 17:56

What strategies have you tried either outside of school or working with the school to solve the problem? How do you propose she get braver about getting her face wet? Just missing swimming seems a bit drastic and really shouldn't be your first resort.

radicalsubstitution · 18/09/2012 18:15

I don't see how you can ever become a 'proper' confident swimmer without putting you face in the water.

At the end of the day, being able to swim properly is a skill that can save your life. The numerous tragic events of this summer have proved that.

Withdrawing your child is an extremely bad idea. You would be better to put your efforts into finding a 'nervous swimmers' course outside school.

jennycrofter · 18/09/2012 18:19

What everyone else says.

Please don't take her out of swimming.

juniper904 · 18/09/2012 19:53

Agree with ReallyTired

Your DD is Year 6- she is going to be in high school in a year's time! You can't fight every battle on her behalf; she needs to learn to suck it up sometimes, even if it's not what she'd choose.

cansu · 18/09/2012 19:57

She is upset because she didn't like putting her face under water. School teacher has said she won't have to do this next week but you are still unhappy. I don't understand what you want? Why would you take her out of swimming altogether. I think you are being over protective and a bit daft tbh

bowerbird · 18/09/2012 20:32

OP please don't take your DD out of swimming - you will be doing her a great disservice. I know it's awful when your child comes home in tears and distressed and I sympathise. But nothing was asked of her that was unreasonable. You have no concerns for her actual safety. There is nothing to protect her from.

She needs to toughen up. And so do you.

exoticfruits · 18/09/2012 20:50

cansu has said it all. I don't see the problem.

shebird · 19/09/2012 20:23

Maybe some lessons outside school or a crash course in half term could help to build her confidence? Swimming is a life skill and it's important she does not give up. Also what sort of message would you giving her saying it's ok to opt out of things you don't like doing?

Cazzymaddy · 20/09/2012 16:04

Thanks for all your comments. This week she was taken out of the water halfway through the lesson and sat on the side with the TA as she wasn't confident enough. which part of the National Curriculum involves sitting on a bench? must go and look that one up!!

OP posts:
lljkk · 20/09/2012 16:21

Do you want her to learn to swim well or not?

ImaginateMum · 20/09/2012 21:39

You have told them she is really upset, and it sounds like you were too. So they probably thought pulling her out met your requirements. You may need to go in and plan a joint strategy with them.

cansu · 20/09/2012 21:39

So they let her sit on side as she was feeling wobbly and you are unhappy about this?? You wanted her not to do swimming but when they allow her to opt out probably because you have complained you then complain that they eat her sit on the side with the TA. Sorry Op you sound very strange!

clam · 20/09/2012 21:57

What do you want to happen here? She dosen't want to put her face in the water, they said she doesn't have to, you're upset (and becoming angry). You don't think they're taking her concerns seriously, but they let her get out of the pool last week and sit on the side as, presumably, she was upset, and you're not happy about that either.

You're upset "that her teacher would be happy for her to go with her so upset" This time next year she'll be at secondary school. At least this class teacher knows her name!

You're worried that you're "not protecting her enough at the moment." I'd say you're possibly trying to protect her a little too much. Do her a favour and stand back. She'll be fine. She's Year 6 now.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread