Encouraging DS to have more friends - how?

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DS made a 'best friend' in nursery, went on playdates. All fine. They are now in P1 (age 4) and are still friends. But I get the feeling sometimes that the best friend isn't as keen on DS as he is on him. So DS will be running after him in the playground wanting him to play but a new game, not joining in the existing game. And the friend wants to keep playing what he's already playing.

I keep telling DS to play with everyone and to 'let people do their own thing'.

It's not that I don't want him to be friends with this boy (he's lovely!) but more I don't want all his friendship eggs in one basket - if that makes sense.

Should I try inviting some other children for playdates?

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Hello,
I know exactly how you feel, I get anxious if I see my son being bossy to his friends and then they refusing to play with him. In my head Im going chill out and be more considerate and charming and you will get more friends. Its so hard. Ive read that you should really butt out and leave them to discover and learn about friends themselves. Not to ask do you have any friends, who is you friend etc. Leave them to it, to make friends etc. Im sure there was nothing my mum could have said at that age to help. You can maybe ask him who he might like a play date with or wait to be asked. I wouldnt also worry about friends being in one basket he is only 4 and trying to make a friend poor kid, you are over thinking it and being anxious and should leave him to it. He will probably find another boy who adores his company at another stage and have many more friends too. Dont worry so much he can fend for himself and is learning about friendships, human nature etc.

Thanks for replying. I know I'm over thinking it!! But it's sad to see him all eager and keen to play with this other boy and then him being a bit indifferent.

I know its heartbreaking! I had it the other day when my son thought he had made a new friend in the park and played with him for ages and then got a mighty punch in the face from him. Horrible kids and boys can be but it's all part of growing up sadly. Boo hoo!