Just before the summer holidays after school club supervisor told me that there were problems with ds being angry in school. I contacted SENCO who advised me to go for a caf with school. The only prior contact I'd had with her about it was when she stopped me in car park on day and said that as a single parent family there were people she could arrange to come and talk to him as she was concerned - but nothing further.
I was a bit surprised at caf but agreed. School said they were concerned how he'd react to new teacher - someone who I've worked with in the past and who has real difficulties managing behaviour issues. Just before the summer hols they gave him a traffic light card system to use - when feeling angry he could use a card and go out. He used it whenever he didn't feel like working, or at home started being really cheeky and throwing cards down and storming off. Behaviour at home has been a lot worse since school began focussing on it.
This year he went back with a really positive attitude. However comments like 'new teacher has promised me 5 team points if I stop drumming my desk' tell a different story. Was stopped by SENCO tody and told he is now in a nurture group for an afternoon a week. I am really concerned - ds is bright, not fulfiling potential, and lazy. I don;t want him to miss so much from the timetable, and I feel it should be possible to manage his behaviour in class. Bribing him is a no win, to begin with. He responds a lot better to clear boundaries and strictness rather than to wishy washyness iyswim. At wit's end. Not sure if or how to approach things. Dd is v settled at school.