First day at school and I can't stop crying

[Piggychunk]

Is this normal??
My DS last of 3 has started school today and as we have moved in summer doesn't know anyone..

He looked so lonely and lost when I left him.

I am now currently clock watching for home time. The school seems loud and busy and I just want him in a class of 5 in a school of 20 :) ..Joking ish
Is it because I see him as my baby or is he really not ready I just don't know

Hi Piggychunk

First off I'm sending you a soothing cup of virtual tea .

Look you've had a move, probably losing a lot of your support network.

Second, you probably knew the drill at the old school and have now gone right back to square 1 - being the new Mum, not knowing where to go, the system, etc...

Third - yes, he's your baby and it means that his toddler years are coming to an end - he's growing up.

Fourth - the first day at school is always hardest (I was worried for my Y3 and Y5 DDs last week on their first day - it's what Mum's do).

I suspect you've been positive, strong and optimistic about moving and school all summer and now that nothing can be done and he's off on his first day, you probably just had a bit of a crack in the veneer of keeping it smooth sailing for your DC.

You'll be heading off to pick him up soon. So have that cup of tea and maybe something sweet (for the energy) and my advice is make it a slow walk home (maybe by the park) if the weather's good and find out about his first day. I'm sure he'll be excited and hopefully likes his teacher and has made a few friends.

It will be easier tomorrow, and even easier in the coming days...

Hang in there!

DD started on Friday. (PFB)

I blubbed too! Right in front of the teacher! She probably thinks im a right one now!

I think for me its just that school seems so final and so formal. Thats it now... school every day until she's what? 18!?

Someone said to me the day before... Once they start school, thats it you've lost them. Im sure that made me worse and I kept hearing her saying over and over in my head!

Day 2 for her today and even saying goodbye this morning I could almost feel that lump in my throat.
I knew id be emotional but didn't expect it to be as bad as this!

Thank you lovely ladies very very much appreciated. I know no one in the town so it is hard for us all to be new which hasn't helped at all.

Hi Piggychunk:

I've so been there. The new one at a small school where it seems that everyone knows everybody else.

But the reality may be that they're saying hello to people they know, or recognise, but if you were to say hello, they'd say hello to you too.

My advice is this:

Whilst the weather remains relatively good, build in going to the park after school - you'll probably find that you are joined by other parents from the school and, even if it is awkward, try striking up a conversation. What year is your son in? Who is his teacher? Did he have Mrs X/ Mr X last year? What did you think of him as a teacher?

If you're at a very loose end, the odds are that the school would be grateful for a parent volunteer to help listen to children read. If you aren't working, you could consider offering to come in one morning/ afternoon a week. Usually you don't go into your child's class. But it's a nice activity, it helps the school and it gets you out and about once a week.

As I'm sure you've read here joining the PTA can be great and can be not so great. So you may need to think through whether this is for you - but you could offer to do things like bake for their events (very clearly defined, without involving you in organising anything).

HTH

Crying mums outside Year One in our school (I MADE myself not cry because I am a bit macho. But I wanted to).

I was like this when my youngest started school..and pregant within a month.

My youngest then is no longer my youngest!

Solution...

There's so many mums feel this way, is there a term for it? When they leave home it is empty nest syndrome... The thing to remember is you're so not alone, it is a massive readjustment and all to easy to slob about! Build some routine into your day, join a jazzercise or exercise class, organise when you do your shopping, maybe cook evening meals ahead, put the radio on, dance about, get your hair done, look for a part time job... but don't rush, it's still early days!!

Wish there were more of us. I feel like the only one who feels like this. Everyone else seems eager for them to go full time straight away to get them out of their hair.

The class teacher doesn't even seem to know who DD is. Poor thing is just getting lost in the noise. :(

Wish I was clever enough to Home educate. :(

if your child is in reception and not yet five and you have the time, I'd suggest part time attendance. it is not in the least bit disruptive for the child (at least in my experience....). Discuss with your head. Ours was amenable.

Pigley my DS is really shy and quiet and I think still hasn't spoken to any other class friends and says school is boring :S .. The teacher says he is a watcher and just wonders around but that breaks my heart thinking he is lost and alone.. Oh I can't think about it I might start off again!.. BTW he is currently still only doing afternoons so it isn't even full time yet

My youngest started year one last week and even though he's been at the school a year, I know most people there and I know he loves school, when he got a bit upset on friday morning (not feeling 100% but not really ill) I blubbed! Thankfully I know the head and the TA who was at the door well and they both gave me a hug and a tissue and told me they'd look after him. It's a perfectly normal reaction especially in a new place.