Distrupting my DS in his early months of school

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My ds is due to start primary school for the first time next week. Due to my dh's redundancy from the military we are moving areas, and we had hoped the purchase of our house would have completed by now, but its been delayed.
The catchment schools for where we are moving to are all full and until we have exchanged and have proof of it, i cant apply for his new place.
My dilema is, do i send him to school next week (one that non of his friends from pre-school are going too) to then move in the next month, with out knowing how soon he will get a place at a school. To then later on be moved yet again to a third school that is in catchment?
He is a bright boy but we have been concerned for a while about his anger for small almost unreasonable things and his inablilty to understand somethings, that his younger brother and other friends understand very well.
I know that he thrives from routine, but after 6 weeks off, to pull him in and out of fulltime school when he has never been before i think it will do more harm than good??
Advise would be greatly appreiciated :(

I would keep him at home until you can get him into the 3rd school.

I was thinking about not sending him where we are now, but starting him at the place he is offered once we move as he will be on a waiting list for the one in catchment and it could be a long wait. He needs school as the routine is great for him plus i cant provide what school can while sorting out our new home and looking after our younger son.

We're not a forces family, but aren't there rules to allow you to apply for a place with a discharge date instead of proof of address? We're in a forces area and I remember reading something like that? Might be worth checking on the forces forum.

We had to move our ds to 3 schools in reception, (one school for 6 weeks, 4 schools by y1) due to relocations. He's a sensitive worrier and we were racked with guilt each time, but honestly he's a stronger little man for it!

Guilt is part of the Mum job description, but remember that all the decisions you make are the best you can do for your little boy at the time.

IMO any school routine would be better than no routine, particularly if you know he responds well to that sort of thing. There will be lots of little things that all schools do, like coats on pegs, lining up, 'choosing', sitting and listening etc etc. His time at the first school(s) certainly won't be wasted.

Good luck with your move

If it were me I would send him to school next week so he gets used to a school routine. Reception is mostly play based and he'll have the chance to play with children his own age.

You can't guarantee you'll get any school you want regardless whether you're in the catchment area or not. If they're full, they're full.

When is he 5? You are allowed to keep him at home until the term after his 5th birthday. My ds1 is going into year1 next week and he started a new school for reception away from all his friends etc. he settled very quickly.

He might thrive off a school routine.

And don't beat yourself up over changing schools, although sensitive, kids generally cope with things quite well.

I would keep him off until your final school where he will settle. Can he remain at the nursery in the meantime? He is only 4 and you would get funding until term after 5th birthday in any case, wether he was remaining at nursery or at school.

Thanks for the replies folks. I do feel sending him will be good, but im concerned that making friends and leaving them so soon will be upsetting for him and he doesnt do upset to well.
Its a real dilema, and ive no idea what to do for the best.

Cakesaregood, dh has time off as of september and doesnt have to return to work, but doesnt officially leave until december so if we where to get a letter it would say that date. We found the home we wanted to buy and it had looked like it would fit perfectly with school times but damn paperwork has got in the way.

Have you spoken with the LA - some of them can be helpful ;-)

Sending you hugs, or whatever's your thing! You will do the right thing for you, whichever way you go!