Can anybody advise please?! :)
DS is 8 years old and an only child and has always been a bright little boy. All his reports say he is clever, a pleasant member of the class etc. (sorry if this sounds like a stealth boast, it honestly isn't!)
At the end of the year we get the years exercise books home and TBH I was quite shocked by the poor standard of most some of the work he has done in school. We always do homework to a high standard so its clear what standard he is capable of when cornered like a rat properly supervised.
He really enjoys school but seems easily distracted and loathe to put in the extra effort that he is capable of. As I said earlier though, his reports are always glowing. Are they therefore generic "good, average or poor" reports that the teachers adapt to suit or is he really capable of greater things?
Anyway today I was decorating his bedroom while he is away, and I came across some stories he has written. The structure and vocabulary is so far removed from what he churns out in lessons it has me slightly worried that he could be selling himself desperately short at school.
So what do I do? Will he mature soon enough that he begins to take responsibility for himself? I am loathe to become any more involved for fear of becoming draconian and him switching off completely (as happened to me)
Also, unsure if it is relevant but he started nursery/ reception in prep school where they were heavily supervised and he thrived. At state school we knew and accepted that this level could not be maintained but do you think this early experience has made him almost lazy when left to his own devices? If so how do we stop it?
Many thanks and apologies for the essay :)