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education vs enrichment extra curricular activities?

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3duracellbunnies · 02/07/2012 14:24

I have 2dd going into yr3 and yr1, plus toddler. Both girls are doing well but I think esp dd1 would benefit from more one on one help from us, but we are busy enriching their lives! They do brownies/rainbows one evening and swimming another evening, then might go to a concert etc another night in the summer. On the weekend we often go to castles, museums, beach, exploring in the woods. When we go to castles etc we talk through its past, and they both really enjoy history. Dd1 can read well so we get her to read guides etc, and we count steps etc climbing up spiral steps. They both write in journals on holiday.

I just worry that we don't do as much of the formal stuff as we could. Dd2 only just gets through her reading books each week as evenings are quite hectic. Dd1 does bare minimum homework after much nagging and reading, she prefers to choose her own books rather than the school books. I think both of them are above national average on most things, dd2 more self motivated, but dd1 would probably do better in class if I pushed her more, it is quite a high achieving class, and I'm know lots of parents are doing much more than I do in terms of workbooks, educational computer games etc, as they talk about it in playground etc.

Just wondering particularly from teachers, what balance is best for them academically, would you rather have a child who does all their homework and workbooks, or who has been off exploring? At what age do you think sitting down and doing formal learning should take priority over enrichment stuff? Would like dd1 to go to grammar (top 25 percent), think she is probably capable (clever but not a genius) but not sure if she or we have the stomach for all the extra work just to keep up with peers, let alone the extra tutoring.

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redskyatnight · 02/07/2012 15:00

Not a teacher but my DC are similar age (just finishing Y3 and Y1). My personal feeling at this stage is that I'd rather the DC do the "fun" stuff than endless workbooks and academics. Sounds like you have a good balance as they are learning as well as enjoying their activities.

However ... a slight caveat is that I did find the expectation for homework in Y3 to be much higher than in infants - it is now not optional, though obviously this may depend on the school.
I'd question that you seem to be struggling to find time to do (presumably fairly minimal homework) in the evenings especially as they only do a couple of after school clubs each. We set aside time for homework (and music practice) every day (not a lot, maybe up to 30 minutes- less for the younger one) and also prioritise reading at bedtime (both letting the DC read to us and us read to them) unless the DC are very busy (e.g. DS was in the school play last week and not home till 9pm).

Conclusion (to long dull email) - I would make sure that DC do at least their assigned homework and possibly extra to help them with anything they are struggling with. Other times enjoy as you like :)

Elibean · 02/07/2012 17:02

My children are just finished Y3, and YR, and by the sound of it quite similar in inclination/ability to your two Smile

I am not very keen on the workbook/computermaths approach, personally, and dd1 doesn't respond very well to it either - she gets a lot more out of the kind of thing you talk about, castle visits, walks down to the river to look for 'old pottery', nature stuff, theater and films to discuss, etc. 8 years old is so little, and such a formative time - and, to my mind, a time for exploration and creativity as well as formal learning.

I do support her with homework, in that I encourage research and find interesting materials for her to use, and brainstorm creative projects with her. I also help her figure out how to find time/space to do it, make sure she does her reading, find interesting books for her to read, etc.

Her teacher, whom I trust, believes its better to support primary age children's interests at their own pace - not push them one way or t'other too much. So a child that thrives on workbooks and loves doing them - fine. A child that would rather paint, play sports, forage for bugs or make giant sculptures - also fine.

dd2, who is little still, is very keen on writing/reading/maths and is in constant self-motivated competition with her big sister of course - so currently does very well without any additional help from me Grin

Elibean · 02/07/2012 17:03

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