do teachers bully??

[cabbagesoup]

I have a very sad, crying DS at home age 8, we are having problems with the relationship with his teacher, she seems to be treating him very oddly - I know this sounds very one sided but we as parents just don;t get what he has done wrong? basically they get merits for good work, that result in bronze, silver & gold certificates.

So today all of his mates at the same level troop out with silvers and he is 30 merits away?

We can't seem to understand why we are being told he's doing well, hes trying hard etc all the usual stuff and yet failing to get these merits? which are given out by the teacher, he's pretty well behaved can be silly but not a trouble maker, he does homework etc.

So the boy in the class who swears like a trooper and is very distruptive but clever, has his gold, all the acedemic ones have golds, the little girl who was going to be moved back a year has her silver, all the middle pack of spring boys who are just scraping have silvers, he is the only one 30 merits away??

What would you do in our situation we are baffled and frankly angry that he's the only one left out? He says "its simple XXX just doesn't like me!"

Talk about a demotivated child!

Thanks all of you - well I've actioned one thing and he now has a lovely tutor we are going to do this in the summer to perk him up and hopefully help him enjoy learning, he's also delighted as the tutor is male, a new thing for him!

You know I'd dropped the idea of causing a fuss but it's till bugging me, you know it's bugging me as I've just bought a few small gifts for my DS teachers and got her something, but i hated getting it!!

Problem is simbo, it's a tiny school and he has the same teacher next year too! so it needs sorting out really - Gulp.

Pastsellbydate - I would guess at yes in terms of behavoiur, we are strict in terms of manners and the way he conducts himself, so he's very polite and fairly quiet.

I can't see that he would help clear up, unless he was asked

Carry stuff for the teacher? her pets do that!!

Help others again unless he was asked too, he's wouldn't be considered bright

Extra work, nope he does take in drawings and books around a subject that he's keen to share, but they just come home and we get nothing from him, he's shy so not sure if he shows them, I know he's been fobbed off a few times she she doesn't have time.

Working harder, nope? he gets no rewards? so he's not motivated to do what's asked let alone extra. he scrapes by!

I will be waiting for the school report to come hom this week.