DD1 is wetting again :-(

[BrittaPerry]

She is 5 and near the end of reception.

She took ages to get toiletting sorted, but we thought she had it cracked in the springtime, and went from 3 accidents a day and nappy at night when she started school to none for three months and dry at night too.

But for the last four days she has been wet once or twice in the day and overnight too. :( We had signed off from the school nurse and everything :(

Up to now, we are carrying on with not making a fuss, just reminding her to go if she starts wriggling, and if she wets just telling her "oh dear, time to get changed again then you can carry on playing" and finding her some clean clothes.

There has been some suggestions of aspergers type problems with her social skills, but again that seems to have got worse again later when we thought she was starting to at least parrot the right things to say.

Sigh.

Ideas? Will it just pass?

Is she comfortable with the school environment, particularly the toilets?

My 8yo DD3 is still wetting herself on a fairly regular basis, mainly when she is in a place where the toilets are unfamiliar to her/dirty in any way or when she is worried about something or unsure about asking to go.

Consider that this has been a long term. Being tired could be a cause.
I am getting Dd just 5 dry at night, but she is very tired.

Some kind of reward system for staying dry/for regularly going to the loo?

Is she comfortable asking staff to go to the toilet. Could you ask them to help by telling her to go to the loo every hour for a short while until it's sorted?

As for weeing in the night, my friend whose daughter is 4 gets her up for a wee just before she goes to bed herself. So her daughter goes to bed at 7ish (I think) and then my friend gets her out of bed for a quick wee at 11pm. 99% of the time she can then get through the night and stay dry.

I would focus on the day time weeing though as your daughter can control this by asking to regularly go to the loo. You can regularly take her too and the school could help too. Night wetting can take longer and I knew year 6's when we went on school trips who still occasionally bed wet.

Brittaperry - I am having the same problem with my dd2 (4 in Reception). She was rubbish at pre-school - regularly coming home with wet clothes, even though she was actually potty trained at 2 1/4 but goes through stages of "can't be bothered" to go to the loo. I know she is physically capable of it, so it is not the same as a child who has never been dry. She is worse at home than at school, probably because she'd be embarrassed at school but doesn't care at home.
I agree with concentrating on the daytime wetting. DD2 is always wet at night and has no control of that. Dd1 (now 7) was dry in the day from 2.5 but still wet at night until age 6. She's fine now, and i've heard that it is a hormonal thing that you just have to wait for....

how easy do the teachers make it for her to go?
dd1 has some physical problems which mean she needs to urinate more frequently than average. at her preschool they had free access to the loo, so no accidents. at school, they tried to restrict access to a degree, and there have been occasions upon which she has been unable to wait, and sitting in wet pants led to a UTI

i sent a letter into school about this, and dd1 is now allowed to use the loo as and when, without asking for permission. she is a sensible sort and doesn't abuse the "privilege".

I think 5 is really young still. Have you tried the ERIC hepline (google them) - they're amazing and very grounded. Lots of good advice for both day and nght time wetting - like drinking shed loads during the day to give her bladder a strong enough signal that she needs to go, but acknowledging that most kids don't drink enough at school. As the mother of a 10 year old DS who still wets at night, I've been round all the houses and now take the pragmatic approach that ERIC and the enuresis nurses give - do what you can, and relax, even 10 they view as still young to be fully sorted, they'll get there in the end. Since we relaxed about it he's dry 50% of nights. She'll get there!

My DS has started doing the same, but at the same time he has been sleeping in past 5.30am for a change! It has been a long half term and I do agree with "shattered" that it might be just tiredness. My DS does suffer from constipation as he hates to go to the toilet at school, so again that might play a key. See how you go over half term break. If it clears up then reumes when school starts then you might have more clues. Good luck

resumes not reumes (too late need bed)