Daughter missed out on invitation to classmates party

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Hi

Just after a bit of advice really, this morning at school drop off my daughter (yr1) got in her line with the rest of the class and then left the line to come and kiss her baby brother as she forgot, whilst she had left the line a little boy in her class was handing out invites to his birthday party and by the time she had got back in the line he had finished handing them out, this obvously resulted in her not getting one. She saw him giving the spares back to his mum and looked at me as if to say 'where is mine'!!! It looks like he has invited the whole class and there probably was an invitation for her. They were not named invites just a batch of photocopied slips.

My DD was quite upset going into school but nothing was said when she came out as she seems ok now do I just leave it and her not go to the party, - my only worry with this is they may all talk about it after the party and she will realise she missed out-, or should I approach this little boys mum telling her what I think happened. She is quite friendly with this little boy they have known each other since nursery, I know the mum and say hi in passing but don't know her as well as I know other mums.

Any advice on best way forward here I would be grateful for.

Thanks x

I would mentioned it to the mum, im sure she wouldnt purposely leave out just one child and it does sound like what you describe has happened and she just missed out because she came out of the line. Another thing maybe is get your daughter to ask the little boy and maybe he will bring her one the next day

I would speak to the mum. I work on the principle that if the parents can behave like rational adults about the parties there is more chance that the kids will too just reassure her that if it wasn't an oversight and your dd isn't invited, that you aren't going to go crazy!

Definitely mention it. If it were a small party then I wouldn't but this seems to be a clear oversight. As the mum of the party child I'd hate to accidentally leave out one child.

Yes, if the invites weren't named I would mention it. It doesn't sound deliberate and the mum probably won't realise.

I would ask too. If they are not named and there are spares, there are probably enough for the entire class.

At hereIGo- it really isn't the teacher's job. We get caught up in so many party-invites-gone-wrong situations that is lacks humour by May!

thanks for all your help. Spoke to the mum she couldn't have been any nicer, the little boy was just giving them out like I thought and she just got missed. The mum had a spare invite in her bag so all sorted now. Childrens birthday parties can become so political sometimes!!!

Well done, Mum.