year 2 ds is easily led and getting into trouble

[mumlikeschocolate]

I have a lovely ds who is in year 2. He knows how to behave himself and is generally well behaved at home and out and about. However, at school, the teacher says he keeps getting into trouble by going along with dcs behaving badly in class. He knows he shouldn't, I have spoken to him about it, teacher has spoken to him too, but he keeps doing it. I understand he wants to fit with the other dc and there are a lot of strong characters in his class this year. How can i help him do the right thing behavior wise, and ignore these dc when they are being naughty?

just wondered if anyone has any similar experience or advice:)

What's the teacher like?

Do you know how discipline is in the classroom?

I can't really give advice. Why I ask those questions - I have a dd in yr 2 who is in a class with a lovely but very soft teacher, many DCs run riot (I can't entirely blame them).

Teacher and school resolutely blame the parents, but unless I've missed something we can't control our dc with a remote control? If there's no boundaries in the classroom, it will be chaos.

I am terrified if DS (currently foundation) gets dd's teacher in year 2 as I'll be posting the exact same as you.

I hope someone with more experience comes along soon.

I think ds and his group have been able to get away with misbehaving for a long time now and teacher is now having trouble reigning them in again. It is like ds thinks he is being clever joining in with the naughty boys. If i was in the class he would definately not get away with it and not expect to. But i suppose in a class of nearly 30 it is hard for the teacher to keep on top of them all the time so they try it on. I just wish ds would be more sensible as he knows deep down he should be behaving himself.

Sounds like a similar situation to DDs class.

I have known all the kids since foundation. They are all lovely children, but have been allowed to run wild. I feel for the poor teacher (who is a sweetie), but I feel for the children more.

I go in and help quite regularly. I go to the other yr2 class next door and there is a lovely quiet hum of concentration. A slightly more experienced teacher, who DD tells me is much stricter. One boy was moved from our class to her class, as he'd been uncontrollable, he is doing really well now.

Last term I went in and saw the teacher, outlined my concerns, she fobbed me off and nothing changed. So I went to the head, as did several other parents. Things have improved. 2 children moved, our teacher getting more support, help setting boundaries, lots of visits from the deputy head, head (I have seen them in there when I'm in helping). She's doing much better but I still look wistfully through the windows of the other classroom...

Keep on at the head, and offer any help you can - I would not let this pass in my teaching team (secondary school so slightly different, but I would always take on board consistently expressed concerns, especially if they came from more than one parent). If you're positive and always keen to praise things your DS's teacher tries that you hear/see going well, they should listen rather than shutting you out and blaming parents all the time. Also explain to the teacher what sanctions you use with DS when poor reports about his behaviour go home so she knows you are on side. It must be really hard when he's stuck in a rowdy class all day! The class teacher needs to accept that her performance WILL make a difference but she won't be likely to welcome dialogue with you if she feels threatened so it's important, though hard, to stay positive and supportive if at all possible. The head should be more useful but sounds a bit wet in this case - keep it up and if necessary talk to chair of governors if nothing improves after a few weeks.

When I had my meeting with the head I followed some great advice on here, and as funchum says, did stay positive while focusing on my concerns that DD was not learning as she should be. When the head stated that she had to consider the education of the dc messing about I countered her with - their not learning anything either, which stopped her in her tracks and we did see some action.

Let us know how you get on.