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Reception is DS is struggling with school...

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Jaffaswife · 11/05/2012 11:59

Hi, my DS is young for the year being born in July. He changed schools just after Easter and his new teacher says he is behind the rest of his new class. (I did ask quite direct questions). DS son is at a fab private school BTW. He is struggling concentrating, mixing with the children and phonics. DS knows his letters but sh, ch and th he isn't consistently getting right.

The teacher wants to see how is settles between now and Half Term as I asked if she thinks he would benefit from staying down a year. I am however worried that another change would really unsettle him. He looks right in the current Yr R group....

I am reading to him every night, he reads to me every night, I am going through ch, th, sh every night and he is writing them out as well inc in words, we are listening to the Jolly Phonics song CD on the way to school everyday (previously he was doing Read Write inc). I am scouring the internet for FUN phonics games...

I just want my little boy to be settled, mixing with the children and learning....

Any ideas??

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AngryFeet · 11/05/2012 12:04

My DS is behind your DS in everything by the sound of it but there is no pressure at his school as they learn through play and we are told that they often don't even begin to read until Y1. This happened with DD. She couldn't read at all at the end of reception but by xmas in Y1 she was blazing ahead and now in Y2 she is easily above the national average in all areas.

With the socialising thing what are the school doing to help. DS still hasn't made friends but they have worked really hard with him (he is immature socially) and he is starting to form the beginnings of friendships now and seems very happy. Basically we are all helping him as much as we can without putting any pressure on.

Private schools can often be a bit more pressured though. What are they going to do to help your DS? Sounds like you are doing all you can so they need to be the ones to step up.

Jaffaswife · 11/05/2012 12:21

AngryFeet - :-)
DS only started 3 weeks ago so it really is all v early days. The school are doing lots of partner work and group work in class so that he is working with other children and having to interact. His teacher suggested that I do some tea dates so next week we have 2. THe school really reinforce kindness, sharing .... DS is so lovely but at school he is much more reclusive towards the other children not staff or older children. THe reason for moving DS was that he only had 3 other boys in his class, 2 being significantly older (1 should have been in Y1). Now he has 11 other boys.
I guess I need to keep calm, keep working with him (non pressurized) and keep positive!!

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