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Frenemies?

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Simples1 · 09/05/2012 16:57

My dd in yr 2 has been friends with 2 other girls since nursery. My dd and one of the girls sit next to each other. Over the last few months my dd has suffered an unexplained "dent" in her confidence. This culminated in the unexpected death of my mother (very suddenly) whom my dd was very close to a few weeks ago.

One of the girls came round last week, after she left my dd was very upset. This girl had ripped her wallpaper, scribbled over pics she had drawn of my mum saying they were rubbish. Apparently when she asked her to stop as they were special she said she didn't care.

The next day she told people at school my DDs toys were horrific and hideous (she's rather blessed with toys so this is definitely not true ).

I have now found out that for months she has been pulling my DDs hair, hitting her, stabbing her with pencils and saying all her work is rubbish. They sit at back of class.

Now at play times she is telling my dd that everyone hates her (again not true my dd is very popular) and that she cannot play with their group. If my dd tells the teacher they say don't play with her, but then dd takes that literally so avoids all the girls, even though the others want to play with my dd.

I think this stems from jealousy but it is having a real emotional impact on my dd and her confidence especially at this difficult time.

Sometimes she says she likes .... But doesnt think she likes her anymore :(. To my face this girl is all butter wouldn't melt when i look after her.

I think this is bullying or Is this how 7 yr olds friendships work ?

Tbh I am livid about it.

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learnandsay · 09/05/2012 19:32

Explain these things to her teacher.

Wellthen · 10/05/2012 20:50

Agreed. Firstly, if at all possible they should not be sitting together and the teacher should be having a word with all the girls about playing nicely together. This kind of behaviour is not 7 year old friendships (which certainly involve a bit of squabbling) as it is more extreme, more often and targted at your DD.

Encourage your DD to tell her teacher EVERYTHING. Her teacher wont tackle every little thing but she will begin to build a picture of this girls behaviour which will make it easier to tackle. Its very hard to deal with fighting and nastiness as it can be subjective. But when it isnt subjective I would be coming down really hard on this.

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