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low level bullying

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D40K · 09/05/2012 15:41

Hi
My 8 yr old ( yr4) son has been the victim on low level bullying from the same child for nearly two years. After many conversations with the head teacher she is now issuing punishments to the child concerned when it does happen, however, this does not seem to make any difference - he is still doing this. There are many background stories to ths boys behaviour and my son is not his only victim. My question is, what do we do now? How do we apply pressure to the school to take a different action without appearing like bullies ourselves?
Thank you

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learnandsay · 09/05/2012 16:11

What is the child doing to your son and what punishments is the head teacher giving the boy? Isn't the head teacher intelligent enough to work out for herself that her punishments aren't working? (Surely it must be obvious to her if she has to repeat them.)

cansu · 09/05/2012 17:29

Ask for the school's anti bullying policy and then check that they are following it. Document every incident in writing. It may be that the school are doing everything they can and may also be building up to more formal action. Make an appointment to say you are unhappy with situation. Be aware that there will be other info that you are not aware of with regard to this child. You also need to look at whether this is sustained bullying or a series of incidents between your ds and this child. They should all be dealt with but might be dealt with in slighty different ways. It really does depend on what the problems are.

ragged · 09/05/2012 17:40

I think you'll have trouble documenting, the point of low-level bullying is that it's a matter of opinion about tone & subtle things. and 8yos aren't good at describing subtleties.

stargirl1701 · 09/05/2012 17:52

Does the bully have ASN? If so, it may be better to help your child understand why he behaves this way. Happy, secure kids don't tend to bully others.

DeWe · 09/05/2012 20:51

Stargirl, my understanding on children who have AS is that they are far more likely to be bullied than be bullying. I think bullying, as ragged put it with "tone and subtle things" would be very difficult for a child on the spectrum as they don't have that sort of social awareness.

(Apologies for anyone with an AS child who I've offended by saying this, as I know very little, but it seems such a leap from OP to that)

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