OK so this is our first child at school and I have no idea how tough schools these days are on discipline. Our 4 year old, 5 soon, is in reception class in a catholic primary school. We are having a few anger management issues at home with him and these appear to be spilling out a bit to school now, with him having his name put in a book kept in the class that records bad behaviour. He seems to be struggling with his emotions and temper at the moment, but he is only 4. When other kids wind him up sometimes he stays calm, sometimes he reacts with anger. I'm just wondering what teachers expect of reception class kids - are they given any slack in terms of managing their emotions or are teachers expecting little angels? Should I be worried that my son now has 4 entries in some kinf of 'behaviour book' as ot's called? Of course we talk to him about trying to control his temper and not lashing out at other kids. Some things I understand why he would go in a behaviour book - so he kicked a child who wound him up. fair enough, that's bad. But other things - he threw a pencil... I went to primary school in the 1970s and I saw a lot worse than throwing a pencil - seems a bit harsh to record something like that in a book ?! The school states it has a zero tolerance of violence but four year old boys do sometimes play rough and lash out when angry and trying to deal with their emotions.
Could any reception class teachers comment? Is my son,a ged 4, very unusual in having a few anger management issues and occasionally hitting other kids in his class at play time? Should I be worried that the school might try to exclude him? Does this happen to reception kids? What are the expectations for 4 year old boys?