Need some ideas from teachers please

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For dd's next IEP meeting I want a target that addresses "friendship issues" only they aren't in the strictest sense of the word. It's more that dd finds friendships quite stressful because they aren't uniform and predictable and routine.

She is brilliant at sharing, taking turns, joining in even when it may not be what she'd choose to do because she has been taught how to do that.

What she finds difficult is the more spontaneous stuff where there's a spat between friends and she is asked to take sides. Where she doesn't always pick up on what is good natured teasing and what has gone too far and is upsetting someone. It's more the sophisticated bits of friendships that are becoming more important as she gets older that she struggles with and not being a 9yo girl I'm not sure how to teach her to cope with other 9yo girls.

So any ideas either for targets or strategies please.

Should explain dd is y4 has ASD is statemented with 20 hrs support

I think your paragraph where you talk about the particular difficulties are give some good ideas for targets. eg. X should show confidence and a calm manner when presented with a spontaneous difficult social situation. It could be even more specific than that. eg. X should demonstrate that she can identify a socially tricky situation by walking away from it and finding an adult to discuss it with.

When working with our SENCO to review and write targets for IEPs, our main aim is to make them SMART targets (ie. Specific, Measurable, Agreed, Realistic, Time-based, in brief) and often it makes them seem very tiny targets. But giant, vague targets are not helpful as it is difficult to tell if they have been achieved or not.

Strategies are a different kettle of fish and your SENCo should really be able to help as you two know your dd best.