Can anyone advise on this - re admissions

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This is tipping me over the edge, and I am only just holding things together as it is. I havent been able to stop crying since I got off the phone.

OK, difficult situation but hopefully things can be sorted out.
Despite the very trying circumstances I think that from the information you have posted the admission team are actually right in saying that your application for the other school can only be accepted under a distance criteria. The only criteria that would normally fit with your circumstances are if there is a criteria that is for medical and social needs. You need to check whether there is such a criteria but as the LA have been adamant over which category you are in, I suspect that there is not one.
Time is always an issue for everybody who has not got an appropriate school place but unfortunately there are so many parents looking for changes etc that these things do take a long time and you are going to have to be patient.
You have got an application in for your preferred school and you will need to wait and see how things develop but you should assume at present that you will not get a place and then everything is a bonus
The first thing that I would do is write / email to the most senior person you have spoken to. Nicely confirm the substance of the conversation, say that you apologise for the fraught conversation but that you are very upset about the situation, which is a major CP issue and that you consider that the LA are being unreasonable in not being prepared to make a special case for your child. If I am honest with you, they are being perfectly reasonable in the context of the legal definition of reasonable, which is completely perverse. But by writing you do two things, firstly somebody just may have a re-think when things have calmed down and secondly you are detailing a date when the LA were fully aware of your circumstances and the need for an alternate school place.
You are probably going to need to go to appeal, so I would look at other suitable schools (2 or 3) and ask for a place at all those, expecting that you will be told that they are full. You should then ask to go on the waiting list and to appeal for all these schools.
What you are trying to do is maximise your chances of being offered a suitable place off the waiting lists and also from appealing. The problem that you will be faced with is that many of the school appeals will potentially be under the infant class size regs and you can only win that case by showing the LA made a mistake. Whilst I don't believe that the LA have made a mistake another panel may feel differently about them being unreasonable. If it is not an infant class size regs case then you chances of winning at appeal are much higher. Any appeal is not about where you are in the admission criteria it is about your own personal circumstances and you have a potentially good case. Panels frequently have to deal with CP issues like yourself, understand the real issues that are faced and are normally very considerate in terms of trying if at all possible to grant such appeals.

Please feel free to PM if you feel this would be appropriate.You need help and advice but you also need patience.

Hi, I am going to reply on the other thread if thats OK, so it drops away in a few months.