Should I complain?

[SparkyTGD]

DS (year 2 primary) back at school today after holidays, had a few grumbles about not wanting to go back, not liking who he sits beside, usual stuff.

So when home said " "Fred" (boy in class, not real name) said he was going to break my arm... its ok because I knew he was joking and he said he was joking"

I realise that boys are rough & tumble etc but 'Fred' is not one of his friends and there is some history between them, 'Fred' has always been rude/aggressive/ lots of put downs to my DS.

Problem is, I am quite pfb-ish about my DS & worry that I'm being over-protective, I know its usually best to leave them to sort out squabbles without too much involvement but this feels like the last straw to me.

What should I do? Would appreciate some advice.

I'd say nothing for now. But ask him in a day or two how he's getting on with Fred. If it becomes a frequent problem, then raise it with the school. Boys at that age do make all sorts of silly threats/claims. If your DS says it's OK because he was only joking, I'd take his word for it, unless you have other reasons to be concerned.

He's about the right age to start learning karate.

I would mention it to the teacher, gently. It may be that Fred is ASD, the boy who freaked my son ut by greeting him saying he was going to murder him is. (The boy is harmless but my son didn't see it that way, and at the time the boy wasn't diagnosed so I couldn't explain in my usual way even though I suspected).

a boy made a silly joke, and said he was joking, your son wasn't concerned because he knew it was a joke.

what exactly would you complain about? 6/7 year old children say a lot of random rubbish like that

I would not say anything yet but leave it a few days and ask about Fred again (as someone else said).

If it happens again then I would have a word with the teacher.

Thanks for comments, I probably will just leave it & see how things go, it is only the first day.

thisisyesterday DS & 'Fred' are at same table so was thinking on asking for changes in seating.

DS doesn't like school & has to be persuaded to go a lot of the time, don't mean to drip-feed (didn't want OP to be overly long).

IMO, negative stuff at school just adds to this. (I realise that I can't stop negative stuff happening but why does he always seem to be next to the most difficult children )

mummytime not ASD, bright, smart boy but does seem to have a 'bully-ish' streak, unfortunately.

I'd try to be as adult as your son about the remark

He's about the right age to start learning karate.

Your point being?